Hi guys,
I'd love your opinion please - am I too sensitive here? I have a pretty shaky relationship with my sister in law - we're thrown together because we're family and broadly speaking I really like her and we get on well. But she really lets me down. She is often really late when we get together and one time she and her family were 3 hours late to my son's 10th birthday party - it was a small family party where them not showing up was a huge gap, we were looking out for them all afternoon. I ended up clearly letting her know how I felt and things did improve for a long time. By the way the reason she was so late was because her child was napping and she didn't want to get him up until he woke naturally.
I recently had an accident and had to have surgery, I'm recovering at home and she said she'd try and call down last sunday - she never called and never sent any apology. (given she had just said she'd "try to call" I made excuses for her) Then she got in touch and said she'd call with her children today, I said to her yesterday to make sure to let me know if she couldn't make it. I waited all afternoon (am stuck on couch all day as leg is in a cast) and at 5pm she rang to say she couldn't make it because her child's nap went late and had just woken. She only lives 10 mins away but she didn't want to come at that stage even for a quick visit as their evening routine would run late.
I am totally fed up to say the least - I feel I make an effort to get on with her for the sake of the children but this is my limit. I just don't get this from any other family member or friend, if they say they'll call they will....
Am I too sensitive about this or do you think she's treating me like dirt?
What do you do with this sort of relative? I can't cut her out of my life and I do want to be an aunt to her children but I've had my fill of her