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To not throw my 1 year old a birthday party?

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elm26 · 30/03/2024 17:22

I'm feeling like a really shit mum right now and hoping some of you might agree with me to make me feel a bit better!

DD turns 1 in May, we have two holidays booked, one either side of her birthday. One in Devon for the week and one in Spain with friends and their children for a week.

I see all of these lovely 1st birthday parties all over my instagram and Facebook, balloon arches, big cake, pretty party dress, food, photographer etc. and it makes me feel bad that we can't afford to do this with both holidays booked. I had a quote for a Teletubbies cake for 30 people and was way over what I thought it would cost originally (although totally reasonable, takes skill and a lot of time to make a cake and with the detail too), with presents, hiring a hall, balloon arches, food, bouncy castle etc for the older kids we'd be looking at £500+.

I feel like she deserves the very best but we are just having 11 of our close family and friends over for a slice of cake and a cuppa on her birthday.

I feel like I'm letting her down by not having a big celebration but we just cannot afford it as well as the holidays and we've just moved house.

Is this down to seeing all of these big elaborate parties on in social media, or am I just a shite Mum?! I feel quite upset about it!

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Maray1967 · 30/09/2024 14:18

I must be a shite mum then as well!!

But no I’m not. My two each had a first birthday party. Both sides of family crammed into ours so about 14/16 in total. We did the food ourselves and I baked the cake- a big chocolate one, not a themed one. We blew up about a dozen balloons from a packet and bought one helium one for about a fiver.

Buffet at 1, cake at about 4 and a few stayed for sandwiches and leftovers at 6. All gone by 8. Both days were great and we took lots of photos that I treasure.

No balloon arches or cake smashes or even new clothes were involved. We borrowed so e camping chairs as extra seats and some plates and cutlery. We had lots of chat and playing with new toys and folks catching up with each other.

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