Another neighbour one.

[Cinnamongirlinthesand]

Offered neighbour a lift to shops when I first moved in, trying to be neighbourly.

Backfired big time.

Now I'm getting constant messages/ calls, "can we shop tomorrow?"
NO. I'm sick of being put upon.

My health isn't brilliant and I go once I've sorted out horses, dogs and family, so usually mid afternoon. Not suitable for them.Tough.

They don't like NO but f* em.

Neither drive, how did they manage before muggins moved in?

So No is the only answer from now on, no explanations.

Feeling royally f*** of right now.

CF s

So are you saying no?

Just say you can't commit to it anymore but you know tesco/asda whoever deliver if that helps

How long have you been providing lifts? It sounds like it moved from 'neighbourly kindness' to 'expected assistance' from your neighbour's point of view. It's easily done and very frustrating.

"I'm not able to give you lifts regularly anymore, Doris. You'll need to make other arrangements. I have too much on."

YES

I have already suggested that but, they have to pay for deliveries!
No offer of help towards petrol, parking as I'm going anyway.
Yes, when it suits me, not you.

I think this is a blessing in disguise. You know know exactly what type of people they are and can be fully prepared in future as there will obviously be many more requests.

I'd say No then PS - it's rude to keep asking!

Already said but no notice is taken.
Semi rural properties, unfortunately they see me coming and going due to proximity.
Not prepared to bring my bits in under the cover of darkness.
Some people are CFs
I'll help anyone out but don't take me for granted.

Block their number. If they knock, just say unfortunately what was an occasional favour has turned into an expectation and it doesn't work for my routine so I can no longer help you.

Just keep going by yourself. They'll get the hint

Already said but no notice is taken.
Semi rural properties, unfortunately they see me coming and going due to proximity.

So what?
It's not like they throw themselves in front of the car surely. Just go. If they see you give them a wave and keep going

You don’t have to bring your stuff in under cover of darkness, you just say, if questioned, it was easier to stop in on the way back from the yard / family / whatever. And keep saying no.

Or, if you don’t care about remaining amicable, “fuck off”.

If you can handle half a tonne of horse trying to walk over you, you can keep your neighbours in check 😉

I would rather cope with half a ton of horse ! (Been around horses all my life, our mini shetland used to come into kitchen, much to dogs and mothers disgust).
Neighbour is an alcoholic and now asking if I can buy her booze if I can't take her shopping
No I won't.

I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia, after my son died and struggle to keep day to day stuff together.
My BF is coming around tomorrow, she'll put neighbour right about a few things.
NO and fuck off are the best responses , sod falling out.
I've had enough now.

When you say no do they think you’re saying ‘not this time’? Instead of ‘no and never again’?

Exactly.
I've now got back to shopping online.
Free taxi service is no more.

Gone back

Update.
Now they're asking me to add their shopping to my delivery and they'll pay me later.
No way, they don't have internet banking so would mean a trip to bank.
Think I may have mug tattooed on forehead.
So many CFs out there.

Not a chance OP!

Honestly learn the joy of saying no, without giving a reason.

You can always channel Phoebe.

" I could, but I don't want to "

And wouldn’t they expect you to cart the shopping round and sort for them - what about any substitutions? Mine field best avoided!

What on Earth did they do before you lived there op?

I’m afraid I’d have a proper rant at them at this stage. Tell them to stop asking, it’s a no forever more.

Well done for standing strong with them!

They are massive CF's, unbelievable really!

Just say you can help them but that you charge an admin fee of £20 for each order, and the admin fee and cost of the shopping is payable in advance, then see what they say, ha

All power to you, OP, for realising your neighbour is a CF and no longer putting up with that shite.