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Man flu

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easterbunny1 · 30/03/2024 16:28

Honestly, I could scream.

DH woke me up at 3am this morning to ask me in his weak and dying voice where the cold and flu tablets were, in the same place they've always been but he didn't look behind the box of ibuprofen that I'd put in front of it 🙄 I then couldn't get back to sleep until gone 4 after being up until gone midnight with teething DD.

Then at 5am DD 11 months decided it was time to get up. At 9am, I woke him up to ask that he takes over so I can get another hour of sleep. No, he's too ill. He gets out of bed to demonstrate that he cannot pick our daughter up as he feels too weak 🙄

I stayed up, knowing that tonight I will get a night off as DD staying with grandparents for the night. This was meant to be a "date night" for us.

I was meant to stay at home and do the cleaning and laundry whilst he took DD, he can't drive as he feels too weak 🙄 I end up having to do the family rounds (his side of the family) for his elderly great grandparents to see DD and then dropping DD off with Nan & Grandad.

Get home 4 hours after leaving, he's managed to find his way to the living room (I expect he had to crawl given how weak he is) to watch football. Curtains closed in every room other than DD's, nothing cleaned, no laundry done. He hasn't even let the dogs out for a wee.

Why do men act like this over a cold? If he had a dressing gown of doom, he'd be in it. Now I have to skip my precious once in a blue moon lay in tomorrow to get up and do the full house clean before picking DD up as I'm shattered and not doing it now.

Apparently I'm the only wife in the world that doesn't have sympathy for their husband when they are ill. That's what he said 🤦🏻‍♀️

I don't know whether it's because I have no choice but to get on with it as the main care giver for DD even when I feel shit or whether it's because I genuinely think that a lot of men put on an act of dying over a cold.

OP posts:
eatreadsleeprepeat · 30/03/2024 16:56

I would have often agreed with you but am just recovering from a flu bug which has completely and utterly floored me, in a way nothing has before.

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