When did you meet your sibling’s in laws to be?

[Narrick]

When did you meet your sibling’s in laws to be?

At the wedding

Pre-christmas drinks about 3 years in (they lived together for ages before getting married). I think it would have been sooner if my sister and I lived closer.

At this event we met everyone. Parents, siblings, nieces and nephews, aunt and god mother. They are a close family and her Mum loves to host big gatherings. The totally dwarf our very small family.

In the years since I've subsequently met her siblings in laws too. And I maintain a text relationship with her sister who I like very much.

I haven’t yet, they’ve been together about 10 years with children, engaged for several years but haven’t actually married yet.

At the wedding, and haven't seen them since ( 20 years ).

They had an engagement party so I think it was there. We had a BBQ about a year after we met and invited parents and siblings

It was so long ago, but with any LTR I was in it was usually the first family event after we had been dating a while/maybe 3-5 months, probably something around christmas. so always well before any thoughts of them possibly being inlaws.

It wasnt a big deal/intro. guess it depends on if you are within reasonable travelling distance, how you get on as a family and if gf/bf are welcomed early on.

Bit of an odd question without context but at the wedding for my SIL and a party for my sibling's in-laws.

2 months in to the relationship, at Christmas.

Never did. They were at their wedding obv, but they didn't speak to me. Mum and dad only met her parents once before the wedding. TBF, DHs brothers never met my parents either

Never have - and my brother’s never met my in-laws either. We’ve both been with our partners for over ten years, so it’s unlikely to ever happen, and I’m fine with that.

At their wedding. My brother and his wife don’t live locally to us so limited contact really

We had a dinner for the two families when they got engaged.

At the wedding.

I've never met my SILs family and they've been together 7 years. I think my parents have only met them once or twice. My brother met my in laws at my husband's 30th, our wedding, and my son's 1st birthday. Three times in 12 years.

Is it common to meet your siblings in laws?! 🤔

I probably met them both in the run up to the wedding at my parents’ home. They are divorced and I think the wedding might have been the first time they were in the same room since they split! Have spent time with each of them a few times since. Actually my DB’s MIL joined us for Christmas. She is on her own so it was nice to include her. I don’t have my own parents now, and obviously no one replaces them but it’s nice to have some matriarchs around at Christmas in the shape of my own MIL and my DB’s MIL.

Have also met my SIL’s brother, sister, step-brother and step-sister. Probably at my DB and SIL’s house for one of the children’s birthdays (and at the wedding of course).

I’ve read this question a few times but struggling for it to sink in:

My sister lives abroad and MIL threw a tantrum that she wasn’t prioritising meeting her on her fleeting visits back to the U.K.

We did have a post engagement family meal that DH parents/siblings with my immediate family attended. It was just at a chain restaurant in between bother sides. It was nice but very much a box checking exercise.

At the wedding. 15 years ago. Haven’t seen them since.

I met my brothers in laws to be a few months after they got together. It was long distance and when SIL moved to where we lived they came to visit. It was awkward AF, they were very unfriendly.

my brother met my MIL at my hen do I think? He couldn’t come to the wedding so celebrated with me at my hen.

since then we’ve all met each others in laws several times.

Only during wedding planning/shopping for the MIL and at the wedding for the FIL

Same here.

Is it a thing, meeting your sister or brother's future in-laws? Should I have asked? Or INSISTED?

At their wedding. Barely even then and my sibling is long divorced now without ever remarrying.

I wouldn't know them if I walked past them in the street and really am not at all bothered. I doubt they are either. Why would we be?

@VickyEadieofThigh I don’t think anyone should meet their sibling’s in-laws, or needs to insist!

I’m close to my brother and I really really like his wife. When they got together, I couldn’t believe he’d found someone who could tolerate his quirks to be honest, so when I met her and found out that not only was she sane, she was also completely lovely, it made sense to get to know her and that included meeting her parents, siblings, step-parents and step-siblings. Most of them are local so my parents often invited them to family events and parties in the spirit of getting to know each other as the two families were going to be linked together by the marriage. It isn’t strange to me at all to introduce different strands of a family to each other. If I wasn’t close to my brother or didn’t like his wife I guess I’d feel differently.

I was being sarcastic with my questions!

I realised that @VickyEadieofThigh but it seemed to come from a place of wondering why someone would meet their in-laws in-law so I was just trying to explain how it naturally comes about in some families!

We all went for a drink after a 6 months - 1 year of us going out.
I only see her about twice a year so even though it's been nearly a decade, we've never really gotten to know each other very well.