To feel slightly uncomfortable with this

[bagpuss90]

I’ve found out that my friend puts me on loud speaker when her partners there . She told me she does it to save her telling him something afterwards. They are very general chit chats - absolutely nothing he shouldn’t hear. My friend and I have never fallen out - so it’s not like she needs a “witness” to our conversations , we also chat a lot when he’s not there. I guess it doesn’t really matter - but it would never occur to me to do that . It’s made me feel slightly uncomfortable tho

I have nothing to hide, either, but I think it’s basic courtesy to know who is listening to you speak. Telling someone they are on loudspeaker is basic manners and common sense.

WHAT? that is awful. If she said she has on loud so she can move around doing chores or something and occasionally he’s there? Fine. But she said let you know.

The fact she puts it on loud so he can listen? 😱😱😱

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I have nothing to hide either

This. "Take me off loudspeaker please" is also what I'd be saying.

It's not about having illicit secrets, it's about common courtesy. If I wanted to chat to my sister and her partner I would nip over to see them or during a call say 'ooh is Dave there, let me say hello / ask him what he thinks'. Otherwise, I'm specifically ringing the person I would like to chat to.

I don't have illicit secrets I am ashamed of my friends' husbands finding out. I do expect the courtesy of privacy. Particularly if I want to moan about something or discuss my period being a bastard this month etc. I'm not squeamish about anything, there's nothing to be ashamed of, it's just I've called my mate to talk about it.

Not my mate and their boyfriend / husband.