Is this Controlling behaviour?

[Namechngr]

As the title suggests, my DH will consistently talk over me when I'm dealing with the children for Slamming doors due to anger. During these times I try to have a discussion with the children about taking timeout. What was/was not appropriate etc. Explain you have a few minutes to think about it and then talk and hug after the fact.

I'll be down at my DD's height level for example talking about why a timeout is required and my DH will tell me how to talk to her whilst I'm delivering this.

I will say "I'm trying to talk to her and your talking over us, Please let me finish".

I'm so sad, this happens not just with children related parenting. It's been happening for years and i just finally can't hold it in anymore. Thanks for listening. D

Yes - totally.

I would absolutely hate that. What does he think he's doing?

What does he say when you say you're trying to talk to them?

Will just continue telling me how i should be dealing with the situation or anything when it comes to parenting. I walk away knowing it’s not fair to be able to continue explaining timeout and get followed.

we both have different parenting styles but the same end goals.

We have discussed this in the past as i need my space and have that trust that i’m doing it right with the best interests of the children at heart.

I suppose i’m asking AIBU in wanting to be a parent thats not parented whilst parenting.

Yes, he is undermining you instead of being supportive. You need to have a talk with him each time he does this ( but afterwards in private). Parents should be united when parenting otherwise it is confusing to the child. He is bullying you and this will cause behavior problems. Your children will learn to disrespect you as he does. Do not tolerate this.

I’m not sure if it’s controlling but he is undermining you and being overly forceful in asserting his views. He’s also not demonstrating good behaviour and respect for you to your children.

The most important thing is whether you feel he is trying to control you. If you do feel this way, then it needs to addressed.

I saw a recommendation once that suggested something along the lines of

"they can't hear me whilst you are interrupting"

sounds like you want to do gentle parenting and he is not on board with that in the slightest

you are completely mistaken. He wants her to be in the wrong. I can assure you that if she gave the child a smack, he would St. Jesus with the Litte Children.
You are privileged to have no idea what you’re talking about.

Why should I be mistaken? She is talking about gentle parenting. She is talking about her partner not agreeing with her approach. Lots of people wouldn't agree

The reason you are mistaken is because he chooses to escalate his disagreeing with her in front of the child. What do you think is the reason he does that, and why has he apparently nothing to say about he inadequate parenting when no audience is available?