Neighbours moaning about noise

[KarenTrex]

Hi

moved in to new house recently and I live alone. The house was empty for around 8 months before I moved in.

Its a semi detached. The soundproofing is really awful. If I sit in silence I can hear their microwave, even when they turn a tap on. I can hear all noise.

Last night I had 2 friends come round and we were having a drink but we wasnt playing music or anything like that just the 3 of us talking and having a nice drink.

at 1am they knocked the door asking if I could keep the noise down. They moaned at me again today saying they can constantly hear noise from my TV in the day and they said they like it to be quiet as they go to bed at 10pm and I said I could hear them arguing in the day and they didnt say anything.

Their sound has never bothered me I wear earplugs at night and even before I wore them the only times I have been woken up at night is by loud motorbikes going past, never from them. I feel like I cant have friends around late in the evening as they will just moan.

Am I being unreasonable to ignore them, even if it's the middle of the night?

Vote I am being unreasonable if I should be quieter
Vote I am not being unreasonable if I should not care
If youre somewhere between these two dont vote

Thank u.

Yeah I think ours was definitely not the norm. In your case I would carry on as you are and keep reminding them that you hear the same from them but if they are annoyed then use ear plugs or sound proof. I would still have friends over for a drink, watch your TV. Unless you're being crazy loud then it's not your issue, you have to live

OK now this IS unreasonable. Changing my vote - and I bet so would a lot of the YANBUs if they'd read this far.

I thought so too… a couple of months ago.

I came here to say this. It's been posted before.

If its just normal noise then YANBU. Its not your fault that the walls are so thin, or than your neighbours go to bed at 10pm. Just try and not be loud if you can 🤷‍♀️

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5000366-am-i-the-unreasonable-neighbour

I lived in a house like this. Could hear the man of the house peeing!

you are coming across as very aggressive on this thread which isn’t helping your case.

speak to them calmly - say you agree noise is a big problem with the houses. You can both hear everything.

noise late at night is especially irritating- so tell them you need to have a life and occasionally entertain friends - it’s dreadful than even people talking is creating a nuisance . Laugh and say you hear their microwave so you absolutely believe they hear quiet conversations. Say you have to find a way to tolerate each other - explain you wear ear plugs otherwise you couldn’t sleep. Say you only have friends round occasionally.

most people just want to see the other person understands.

Talking at 1am is fine - it as if you were playing loud music. They need to get a grip

Why have you posted this again?

Not if she already owns the wardrobe.

Not to kick you when you're down OP but I feel so glad to live in a house where we can't hear next door at all.

Why have you posted this again? Either way as much as you hate hearing it OP soundproofing is your answer that can be done cheaply DIY..

if your having drinks, naturally peoples voices get louder, please be weary incase your doing this.. they may be just being annoying and nit picky however, at 1am they’ve clearly felt the need to pop round to ask to keep the noise down..

only resolution going forward is being honest with them, state how thin the walls are and mention what you can hear aswell and both of you try to come to a solution I.e they improve there soundproofing on there end and you do yours..

if you have a room that is not joined on to there side (different bedroom etc) could you move into that one?

IMO YANBU. They just have to deal with it. They’ve chosen to live in a house with poor sound proofing so hearing ordinary noise from their neighbours is an unfortunate side effect. It’s not as if you’re up every night chatting until 1am surely?

I can’t hear my neighbours dog or my neighbours at all in fact. The sound proofing is great but if it wasn’t I’d just have to deal with it like I have in previous houses.

Not a surprise so not sure the point in the thread

I thought about this post when DH and I were playing a boardgame, drinking wine and chatting into the early hours last night. I thought about it again when I heard next door playing with their little one at 6.30am while I tried to sleep 😂.
Your neighbours either need to wear earplugs, live with the normal neighbourly noise, or pay for soundproofing themselves.