To still be pissed off, even though it didn't actually happen?

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ExDP and I were part of the same friendship group. I still speak to some of them.

A group of them are away travelling for 6+ months.

DS is 5, ExDP is meant to have him two nights a week, however his parents have him for one, so ex sees him for 24 hours or less per week.

Prolific weed smoker and general dick. There's obviously way more back story, but it's not really relevant to this.

He has told me (with less than 2 weeks notice) to say he's going away to join them for two weeks, and that he thinks his parents can cover both his days, but he's not sure yet.

I have now found out through our mutual friends that he was planning to go out for 1-2 months, but he couldn't get the time off work.

Apparently I'm being "dramatic" as I am so pissed off by this. How could he leave our son for that long? And how could he expect me to pick up all the lack? I work two jobs.

AIBU? I haven't kicked up a fuss, but I've expressed my disdain.

I'd be foaming even though it isn't happening. I'd be furious that he'd wanted to go for that long, the selfish git. I'd also be annoyed that he'd even booked it at all without confirming childcare or checking with you first.

It’s selfish and not fair. I can totally relate as my exh now decided to go live in another country so there’s very little practical help with raising our child (although I'm remarried so I’m lucky to have support at home and I do get financial support).

Unfortunately you can’t change them or make them realise how much they’re missing and you just have to try and be happy that you’re that great, consistent parent that your child will remember as being there for them.

Doesn't make it easier though

Ps you’re not being dramatic and you’re entitled to be pissed off that he’d be ok with that