AIBU for getting upset over comments about my post partum body?

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I was 52kg prior to pregnancy , I was 68kg a week before giving birth and 4weeks later I'm 60kg.
I've said a lot about my MIL on here but she was making comments during my pregnancy about my weight gain and after she's pinched my thighs and told me I need to 'get rid of this' and also slapped her own thighs and told me I need to get active to get rid of it.
Am I unreasonable for being deeply upset?

Move out. Quit complaining about your mil and change your situation. If you didn't live with her she would be much easier to ignore.

Fully paid up old wrinkly feminist here. Just for the record I wasn’t actually suggesting OP said this, and it’s not a sentiment I agree with. I was just pointing out that she wouldn't like this as it’s a personal and nasty comment. I would never dream of commenting on another woman’s face/weight etc firstly as I’m a feminist and two because I’m not a c*nt! Men are not subject to the same judgmental shit about their appearance.

He won't say anything to her he just said it's not her place to say anything as he's my partner and he still finds me very attractive no matter what size I am

It's hard as we live with my DPs parents I would like to move out , we live in an expensive area atm but if we moved 20 minutes out the area it would be affordable

I really want to it's just my DP keeps saying that we can provide more for our son living with them than we can if we rent our own place . My dad wants me to move out and has offered to financially support us for the first year if we need help

I actually dread seeing my mother in law after some recent comments on my weight and eating habits.

The only thing you’re providing for your son is an atmosphere where his mum gets emotionally abused and his dad won’t stand up for her. That’s not a good environment.

Like others have said on here you need to move out and if your Dad has offered to help you that’s even better. You deserve to live somewhere where you aren’t going to be subject to this sort of bullying and abuse. Your husband needs to see how much his mother’s comments are upsetting you and if he’s not willing to step in and speak to her then he needs to accept you’re not happy and put you first. Even if you got on with your MIL living with your spouses parents is never going to be easy for anyone unless you have a huge house
and can live completely separately.

Oh dear. It looks like you have a DH problem. Once you are feeling up to it (in weeks rather than months) tell your useless DH that you are going to be moving out. Your dad is going to help you. Whether your DH goes with you or not is up to him. But YOU are not going to stay there any longer to be bullied.
And you can add that it is not a good environment for his child to see his own mum being treated so badly.

I've discussed this with him, it's a hard one as his mum is emotionally absuive and I think to the point where he feels that she depends on him

I'm so sorry you are in this position, I really am. If your DH can't or won't put you and baby first, then you know that you have to do it. With it without him. Hopefully when faced with the reality of you moving out with the baby, he will finally accept what's going on and choose to come with you. But if he refuses, you need to leave anyway. This is no way for you to live.
However much his mum has fooled him into thinking she needs him, he is still allowing her to treat you badly. He sees how she treats you and is deciding that your unhappiness is a price worth paying to keep his mum happy.
You don't have to accept it. Don't accept it.

I'm glad my family are not like that. I've never got back to anywhere near my pre baby weight.

I would take up your dad's offer. It sounds like your partner is weak and won't stick up for you. This will never change.

Also, make sure you can become financially independent as soon as you can as you are not married to the baby's dad.

He sounds pretty useless.