It's just casual white lies/excuses, but the fact that he's able to do it so frequently and casually just feels like a lack of respect for me.
We had 2 dates, then I suggested a 3rd for the week after.
He told me he was really busy that week with overtime at work so couldn't, he said he was doing 'at least 4 evenings if not more.'
Then a fortnight later he casually mentioned in conversation that he'd just done alternative evenings that week. I didn't say anything at the time but it showed he'd exaggerated because he didn't want to meet up.
Then when he started taking over 24h to reply to every single message (despite having previously taken a few hours at most) he then came out with a story about how he doesn't go on his phone, he's always been a rubbish texter and wishes he was better at it.
That would be fine if it had always been the case but clearly he hadn't been a couple of weeks prior.
He made another work excuse saying something about the cut off pay date, saying that the cut off date was the 29th for that month's pay and that's why he was too busy to meet, which I know is BS because I work for the same organisation (different branch) and cut off is always around the 15th.
Yes it's clear he wasn't interested and playing hot and cold with me. So I've stopped contacting him now, the lying is a red flag for me.
I get it to an extent, he'd rather just make excuses than say he's not interested, and it's fine if he isn't but sometimes he'll act like he is.
Not sure if I'm overreacting? It just feels like a lack of respect, also he must think I'm an absolute idiot to not pick up on his lies.