To have sent DS to school?

[ADHDm]

They had a reward day at school, a bouncy castle and stuff.
If you haven't been late or got in trouble all week.

DH woke up feeling really ill and started being sick, I can't drive so DS had to wait for him to get himself together and ended up being late to leave.

He was in his PE kit because of the fun day but because he was going to be late he isn't going to be able to take part.

He was crying and saying he doesn't want to go in, he's going to have to wear his PE kit all day but not take part.

DH wanted to just let him stay home but he's had alot of issues lately and his attendance is near 90% already.

I feel bad but he can't miss a whole day off school just because he is a little late (the fun day is 1 lesson per year group) so he still has 5 normal lessons to attend.

DH days I'm being mean but it's always this good cop, bad cop thing with DH wanting to let them get away with everything and me trying to wrangle them into school.

It's High School BTW, not primary.

I'd explain to reception why he was late and beg for him to still be allowed to take part.

Too late now, but you need an alternative transport plan for when DH can't drive him (presuming public transport or walking isn't an option). Taxi, friend etc.

Yanbu. I take it your dh doesn't think education is important then !

I'm one of five. My dm didn't have time to mess about and had a simple rule. To stay at home you either needed a temp of 99+ or d&v or a diagnosed by the doctor illness like chickenpox.

Otherwise school - no arguments.

Well he didn't know till he woke up he was ill and this is the first time that's happened in years of school runs.

He felt alright then just started being sick!

By the time I would have called a taxi or anyone else to take DS he still would have been late anyways.

Yes, he should be in school.
I'd have let him get changed out of his PE kit while you were waiting for DH to set himself out.

Is there no other way for your son to get to school?

If this is high school, can your ds cycle in? I can understand why a young teen doesn't want to rely on a df who gives up so easily.

You need to find a way to get your son to school yourself if your husband can't drive him.

I’m fairly sure the school will let him take part still if you explain. Your DH is unreasonable.

Yes, he can get public transport but like I said there was no warning of DH being ill. So he would have been late in any scenario.

Usually being 10/15 mins late is no big deal (he's never late)

Just unfortunate it was this particular morning.

And I didn't want to let him change into his Uniform as he would have been the only kid in the whole school in uniform and what if they decided he could take part after all?

I woukd not send a child who is ill or bei g dick. I would send a child if thry were well enough to go. I agree a note explaining why was late might help . Bouncy castle in secondary school? Never heard of this

I know this isn’t the point you’re making but it’s so unfair when schools make fun activities conditional on things which are often outwith the kids’ control

Not being funny but how late is your husband waking up???? Poor kid

The child was fine, the DH was not well, read the thread properly.

Too late now but he could have put his uniform in a bag and taken it with him.

Very unfortunate it happened today.

Reread and it was DH being sick.

You need to plan better

If DH can't take DS he gets the tram.

DS is never late as if he has fair warning he gets the tram.

DH got up feeling fine and just 5 mins before they were due to leave he started feeling dizzy/ nauseated and began throwing up.

There would have been no way to get DS to school on time.

Couldn't you have explained to the school that it was out of your son's control?

My son didn't throw up 😂 My husband did.

Yes. I've left a message. Hopefully they'll be understanding.

Yeah op. Get your crystal ball working

Jesus

Oh yes. I need to plan better so that next time DH becomes ill 5 mins before leaving I can get my private jet out or my magical stop watch that freezes time.

Do they do them on Amazon?

I'm sorry but am I the only one who thinks it's really grim that shortly after throwing up the husband is driving the kid to school? So in close quarters and now likely spreading whatever it is around school all day! Happy Easter everyone

Well I hope your son gets to join in as it clearly wasn't his fault it was circumstances beyond anyone's control.

This is going to be one of those bizarre threads where no one reads the op properly.

Hes not got a sickness bug. It's medication related.

The added timescale of vomiting just before leaving makes a but more sense now. There is no way that can be planned for. That is indeed, just one of those things.