Never a priority

[AnaB123]

Hi, looking for some advice really as I'm not sure If I'm being unreasonable. My partner never seems to want to spend quality time with me, or our little one, just as a family. I know he loves our baby and he's a good dad for the most part, but he fills our weekends with dates with friends/acquaintances, plus his own plans. I can't remember the last time we shared a whole weekend together as a family. If he/we are invited somewhere, to do something, anything, to him it's an immediate 'yes' whereas I would much rather spend our precious weekends together (I work and am exhausted in the week from juggling everything). I always place He and our baby as a priority but it never feels reciprocated. Our baby isn't yet 1 and he's already had a week long holiday with friends this year. Is this behaviour common? Am i right to feel offended?

You need to speak to him about how you feel. It’s normal to have a healthy mix of time with family and time with friends/hobbies, but he shouldn’t really be leaving the baby with you for most of the weekend. Some partners don’t really understand how their lives change after they have a baby and still live in the same way. I think time with friends/an occasional holiday isn’t the end of the world, but it shouldn’t be the default. Plus, you should get breaks for time doing other things too!

but be open about it, nothing good comes from quiet resentment.