She's a super lovely, kind, sensitive person.
She's very health and safety conscious. Loves talking about routines. Likes to tell me everything she's done that day, change her babies nappy, nappy consistency, what time she took kids to school, how she does her laundry, when she next is going to tesco... ALL the details. She doesn't pay lots of attention to current affairs as she finds it all upsetting and bewildering. She often gets stressed and overwhelmed.
She's the total opposite of me. I'm rather intense. I love discussing ideas, books, politics, podcasts, religions... I don't enjoy discussing what to do. I prefer to just do it. I'm way more into teaching my kids independence even if that means they fail or get hurt (minorly) the first time, rather than micromanaging situations to ensure absolute safety at all times. I love clothes and make up. She's doesn't ever wear make up and has no interest in clothes. I love baking and treating myself. She doesn't even try the food I make cos it's not healthy.
I just find that I have nothing in common. I can't talk about anything. When she chats I feel myself crying internally from boredom. When I talk she just stares blankly at me as everything I say goes over her head.
She's almost a decade older than me but sometimes i feel like I'm the older one. She's just so naive and sensitive.
I feel bad. She's a lovely person. And my husband is sooo close with her. I wish we could be closer.
Is it bad to just say, I give up? Well be perfectly polite to each other and our kids will hang out. But that's the extent of the relationship
AIBU?
To find my SIL annoying
MBTI · 27/03/2024 18:29
Am I being unreasonable?
47 votes. Final results.
POLLGalileoHumpkins · 27/03/2024 18:46
It must be difficult to be sooo much better than her and her low intelligence 🙄
GalileoHumpkins · 27/03/2024 18:46
It must be difficult to be sooo much better than her and her low intelligence 🙄
StaunchMomma · 27/03/2024 21:01
Bit of a chip you got on that shoulder, luv?
OP said nothing of the kind.
GalileoHumpkins · 27/03/2024 18:46
It must be difficult to be sooo much better than her and her low intelligence 🙄
MBTI · 27/03/2024 18:50
I guess... you don't choose your SIL, sometimes it's a natural friendship and sometimes not. I grew up without sisters and was so excited when we got married that id have a "sister "... just gotta make peace with the fact that we won't be that close
GalileoHumpkins · 28/03/2024 07:42
Sorry you're unable to read between the lines of her post, it reeks of superiority.
StaunchMomma · 27/03/2024 21:01
Bit of a chip you got on that shoulder, luv?
OP said nothing of the kind.
GalileoHumpkins · 27/03/2024 18:46
It must be difficult to be sooo much better than her and her low intelligence 🙄
GalileoHumpkins · 28/03/2024 07:42
Sorry you're unable to read between the lines of her post, it reeks of superiority.
StaunchMomma · 27/03/2024 21:01
Bit of a chip you got on that shoulder, luv?
OP said nothing of the kind.
GalileoHumpkins · 27/03/2024 18:46
It must be difficult to be sooo much better than her and her low intelligence 🙄
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lastminutetutor · 28/03/2024 20:29
I could be your SIL, other than the healthy food 🤣. I have what you might consider to be a fairly intelligent job but it is my job I don't really want to be discussing it in detail when out socialising. I read and analyse about 10000-20000 words a day for work, not really wanting to spend my spare time reading unless on holiday. Whilst I have my views on politics/ religion etc I don't want to spend ages discussing it because I have my carefully considered views but I don't feel the need to convince others or spend time arguing. I would probably chat with you about my family, your family, holidays, mutual friends etc.
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