PDA child in charge of the household

[Tartandress23]

My 5 year old has PDA and ASD and is now basically in charge of the household.
Meltdown after meltdown if we don’t do things the way he wants us to.
He also wants to do everything himself, including more adult jobs, so we spend so long sometimes doing a simple task as he won’t let me help him. He had a full on meltdown on a day out on Monday because he couldn’t open his drink bottle , but didn’t want me to do it for him.
He talks constantly from morning until night, it’s usually him telling us facts he knows, about his particular hyperfocus at the time. He needs to have our full attention at all times, he does the same with other adults, and some children and cries/gets frustrated when they don’t appear to be giving him their full attention.

I’m starting to hate my life, he’s our only child, I was considering another, but there’s no way on earth I could cope with this as well as a baby.

I’m so relieved to read this - I feel like I’m currently moving toward losing a really good or two friend right now! It’s probably more on my part, because I just don’t have the mental or emotional energy to defend myself against the constant misinformation and judgements. I literally have postgrad in psychology and have spent the past 3 years researching PDA… It’s so frustrating when people STILL think they know better, based only on what they instinctively feel / have experienced.

Zombie thread!!!!!