Blocked babys dad. Should I make contact?

[AngieR87]

I gave birth 3 weeks ago to my baby. Husband left when I was 5 months pregnant. He has been pretty nasty to me during that period, did not support me during the rest of my pregnancy, and was so on and off about his contact with his child.

I told him baby was here the day after they were bon. He basically wished me and the baby good luck. He then got in touch later that day to say he would like contact. I made arrangements for the following week for him to see baby. All seemed OK. He then got in touch a few days later to say he would need to be there to sign birth certificate (he didn't as we are married and only 1 parent has to sign), I had already registered baby and had given them by maiden name, but gave the first name we had decided on when we were together. When I told him this he went crazy and said I was horrible for not giving baby his surname. He spend the rest of the day messaging and trying to argue with me. Said I only put him on birth certificate so I could get money from him (we are married so he automatically goes on). Through that day of 10 hours of messaging he didn't once ask how baby was.
I had enough and couldn't take it anymore. I've blocked him and haven't spoken in 2 weeks now. I feel bad for my child, but I feel he is so irrational there is no reasoning with him.

If you were un my situation would you try to make contact, or would you leave it and see of he goes to a solicitor?

You are not being unreasonable. But blocking him could be viewed as wholesale denying him contact with his son, which may not be viewed favorably by the court should he pursue custody.

I’d recommend unblocking him, but muting his texts, only responding to those messages involving your son once a day or once every other day. Grey rock and don’t engage when he personally attacks you.

Have a method of communication. Doesn't need to be your phone. Could give him a specific email address, or through a family member so he has to behave. He played silly buggers and got a silly bugger prize. He decided not to be involved with pregnancy etc so baby didn't get his name. You're doing 100% everything for this baby. Of course gets your name.

Well I messaged him asking if he was ready to discuss contact with baby. He said become he is moving to Ireland there is no point in contact with baby. Honestly don't even know why I bothered

Thank you for giving insight feom another perspective. I messaged him asking if he was ready to discuss contact with baby and he said because he's moving there is no point in contact and proceeded to tell me all the arrangements he's made so far 🤦‍♀️

He is an absolute arsehole. Do not contact him again, your baby deserves better. Fyi you can still claim maintenance off him if he moves to Ireland.