I know I’m not being unreasonable asd non verbal

[Babsexxx]

To be absolutely royaly fucked off when people think your severely delayed asd non verbal developmentally delayed children fully know right from wrong?!

I’m particularly speaking on family members?!! I’m raging I have a 5 yo the equivalent of a 2 year old and a 3.5 the equivalent of 9-12months this was diagnosed by PROFESSIONALS who studied for YEARS diagnosed.

Why can’t friends and family really understand this?! I’ve had it to the absolute hilt tonight we have been around a family members this evening before Easter and she has accused my kids of just being plane old little shits!

In my wishes and dreams! Fwiw I always discipline my kids and do very much follow a structure of discipline but at there mental ages it’s extremely hard!

Please Ladies if you are ever in the company of children like mine, please don’t think we can control this…we absolutely cannot!

I don’t want to drip feed but as usual because of my current situation I did actually decline the invite but it was insisted we would all be welcome.

What were your children doing?

I’m sorry. Sounds tough. I probably would have just grabbed my kids and left.

o and what they where doing is touching lol. Apparently I couldn’t keep them under control very nice house also had baby on my own also.

Lol touching sorry I got so angry I forgot my entire point…that’s excactly what I did. I explained in the first place it would’ve been too much even for me mentally as my house is set for them so it’s like a comfort zone, they absolutely insisted.

Mine weren't even severly delayed but not verbal around those ages and I couldn't take them anywhere without 1 on 1 supervision as the comments and the looks were just awful.

I could cry everyone absolutely insisted I made this fucking event for my Nan and they acted disgusting it’s soo hard I was surrounded by surprise surprise people with not one kid between them!!!!

Kids touch stuff they’re not meant to, even without development delays. Your family have no idea. 💐

I have an autistic child and yes the ignorance is astounding. I found people were relatively sympathetic when he was under two. Massively unsympathetic between 2-6 years. But in the last couple of years people have become more sympathetic again I think because the older my son gets the more obvious it is that there is a difference.

I don't know what strategies you use for managing behaviour. For me a lot of it stems from managing his environment. So knowing what he is capable of and aiming not to put him in situations he can't cope with. And having clear boundaries (with other people) I also ensure he has opportunities to rest/ regulate and if I see he is struggling I will leave a place.