to be annoyed with my friend

[theowlwhowasafraidofthedark]

who told me that when I go on my honeymoon in two weeks time, I should not under any circumstances use sun cream as I will be 20 weeks pregnant.

Am I right in thinking she's barking mad? Could it harm the baby - surely the gov't advice would say not to use it if so.

She's always on about things like this (and is very judgemental in general). She left my hen night early in disgust after I had one glass of champagne at about midnight.

To be honest, if we didn't have friends in common I think I would have binned her a while ago.

It's fine to use sunscreen!
Very judggemental of her at your hen night.

I don't knwo for sure but I've just had my second and used sun ceam during both pregnancies otherwise Iw ould have frazzled. Sounds bizarre

Ive never heard of that

google says that

she sounds a bit wierd, is she jealous?

i think getting sunburned would be far more hazardous to a pg woman. very uncomfortable, you won't sleep or enjoy your break and you'll be knackered.

I think you're not supposed to use fake tan, maybe she got the two mixed up...

I'm going to Egypt next week (brag brag!!) at 18 weeks pg, and I intend to use sunscreen although I'm going to stick to the shade. Normally I am out in the blazing sun all day to get a great tan but this year I'm being sensible just in case, but I'm sure it's me being over-cautious.

I used sun cream when pg and my DS hasn't been born with 3 heads or anything. Mind you, I have heard it mentioned as a risk, but these things get blown out of proportion. Some people are way too neurotic! Don't worry.

She's a bit mental, just fed up with her bragging to/looking down on everyone else coz they can't meet her standards. She had a go at me last week for having a job with long hours, when I said I would probably give it up after the baby's arrived she gave me a long lecture about losing my financial independence (she works part time).
Feeling a bit oversensitive anyway and could quite easily punch her at the moment.

If you are worried, stick to a mineral (titanium dioxide or zinc oxide) rather than a chemical one. They are safe to use on babies, so must be OK!

Suncream is fine to use when pg. You can be more sensitive to the sun so in fact you should definately use it!!

This friend sounds mad tbh and I would try and ditch her (as much as poss given that you have friends in common). Parenthood is fraut enough with guilt without having it heaped onto you by someone like this!

I asked my GP about using sunscreen when I was pregnant and he said that sunburn was far more dangerous than anything in the sunscreens.

I like the way she says 'under no circumstances'! Is she coming with you? To make sure???

lol

Just a thought - she couldn't be infertile, could she? I was wondering if she was acting a bit bonkers because she's jealous.

I went to Greece last summer at 22 weeks pg and slathered myself in bog-standard Boots Soltan. Even did a bit of bump-flaunting in a tankini. DD is currently on my knee, clearly fine.

Um, using sun lotion v. burns?

Bin her. "Under no circumstances" listen to this woman.

She sounds like she's talking out of her arse. Would she rather you burned? Thats quite danagerous advice to give out to someone. Can you not, ahem 'forget' to ring her, there are some 'friends' you just have to shake off every now and then!

I think now is a good time for you to start practicing the acknowledgement of information generously/imperiously imparted (and possibly well intentioned) that you will completely ignore in your own sweet way.

Nod silently as if taking in the pearl of wisdom and utter a meaningless phrase such as "Hmm that's interesting" or "Oh I've never heard that before - interesting" said in a vague tone so as not to pick a fight over the matter and then get on with doing things your own way as after all its your body, your pregnancy and your baby.

Practcing this technique now whilst merely pregnant will be immensely beneficial when all and sundry start spouting advice once baby has arrived.

MrsTittleMouse - no she has a bouncing little girl, she was the first in our group of friends to have a dc and I think she's annoyed now's she's not oringinal anymore.

She's bonkers in general (still boasting about university exam results). Usually I'm just able to joke about her, but her smugness about pregnancy/child rearing is really getting me down. argh

If she's still talking about uni def bin her. She sounds awful.

I do know a fair amount of people like that, though. I put it down to low self-esteem coupled with lack of imagination

(if you are worried, use a mineral sunscreen or a baby one. Bur can;t see much going from your skin to your bloodstream - surely the epidermis is meant to keep things out?)