This is just a rant really...
DP and I both have big families and I just hate spending time with them and really, really want to stop seeing them.
On my side we all meet up a couple of times a year. One section of the family are particularly problematic. For example, at the last meet up their feral eldest child stood on the table of the restaurant to demonstrate a wrestling move (he is seven) during which several glasses got knocked over. Not a word was said. The youngest one screamed at his mum to "let me have your phone NOW!" to watch some mind-rotting crap at the dinner table whilst he shovelled in ketchup by the spoonful.
On DP's side, there's a section of the family who are into self-described "gentle" parenting (except it's not gentle parenting, it's permissive parenting). They let their kids help themselves to an endless supply of shit food and then allow them to eat three bites of dinner before declaring themselves "done". They don't have bed times. Their children have unlimited access to electronics and are allowed to swear freely. They live in France, so when we see them it's usually for at least a few days at a time.
I am not a strict parent, but my kids have manners, screen time limits, bed times... crazy perhaps. I just find it SO stressful being with other families who don't and really hate that it then takes a week to de-programme my own kids who decide to behave like feral beasts after they've spent time with their relatives. I work really, really long hours and I just don't want to spend my precious free time with these people!!