AIBU to want less contact

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DD was born 6 months ago and my sister came to help out for a couple weeks when we got home from the hospital. She was a tremendous help and I am so grateful for her giving up her time to help me.

Now the issue i'm finding is that my sister is in contact with me pretty much every day to ask about DD and want to facetime etc. I know she means well and loves her niece, I just find the constant contact quite draining, i'm a bit of an introvert and like my me time which is rare to get with a baby. Sister lives 2.5 hours away so can't visit all that often so I think facetime is the closest thing to that for her.

I've tried being more forthcoming with pics and updates but that seems to perpetuate it with more questions and conversation. I think she feels left out from living further away which I feel for her, but then that was her choice to move there.

AIBU to want less contact?

Set your boundaries. What can you cope with?

Ideally for me or twice a month but I could probably cope with once a week. Even my best friend and I go ages without speaking and then have a big catch up every couple of months, that works well for us.

Just stop responding as frequently.

She will soon get the idea.

did she move after baby was born or before? how would you feel is she simply showed no interest whatsoever in baby?

you need to have a conversation with her, and put boundaries in place with regards to contact, but bear in mind, it might not work out the way you are hoping it will.

she's clearly excited about her new niece, and wants to be as involved as she can be, and given she's so far away.. facetime is pretty much all she has.

So thanks for giving up your free time in my hour of need, I'll text you once a month?
If you were in need of support again, would you expect her to do it all again?

I know what you mean, I feel guilty for not face timing grandparents more but sometimes I just want my time with the kids and while it seems like it should be easy to fit in a short call sometimes it is a struggle around the rest of the routine of the day. I do make an effort to just send what's app pictures to keep them involved and up to date - would that be easier for you to share regularly? I think it might well fade away a bit as the initial excitement reduces as well - how much were you in touch pre baby?

A short call each week shouldn't be too onerous. Remember no man is an island and having connections for your daughter will be important throughout her life. I think your sister sounds like a lovely and caring person, a lot of people in this country don't have anyone who gives two hoots about them.