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AIBU to be suspicious?

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Mollyj1234 · 25/03/2024 08:50

I’ve been with my partner for nearly a year now, I love him very much but this past week he’s been acting a little bit distant, but he’s been working so I’ve put it down to that. We hadn’t seen each other in over a week and I couldn’t make it over Friday but he said he had work in the morning anyway and to come when he’s back on Saturday. He was very distant Friday night and didn’t say good night etc which is unusual for him, on Saturday we went out for dinner and he had my favourite chocolate etc waiting for when we got back; very passionate sex 4 times over the last two days (I am still here now). He left for work around an hour ago. Last night we were on the subject of sex and he said well we have done it 6 times and mentioned how he’s aching, I said we’ve only done it 4 times in a joking way as I just assumed he’d got mixed up, he looked very puzzled and said no I’m sure it’s 6 and then just brushed it off. I have a pit in my stomach I can’t explain, I also had a feeling to check his bedside table and I’ve just found a Hawaiian party necklace that wasn’t there before: we are both quite young and before we met he was at uni parties every weekend etc which if he is still going to I’d at least like an invite.

also worth adding that he was lasting extremely long during sex ( the first couple times) which he never usually does

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PickledPurplePickle · 25/03/2024 08:53

I'm not really sure what your question is

pleasecallmeback · 25/03/2024 08:55

Do you think he shagged someone else on Friday night? Or simply thought he was more of a stud than he actually was? Exaggerating the number of times you did it, like young guys are prone to do?

Mollyj1234 · 25/03/2024 08:55

Am I being unreasonable for being suspicious?

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Mollyj1234 · 25/03/2024 08:56

I have a feeling he did something on Friday night and as it’s all so close together he got mixed up.

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determinedtomakethiswork · 25/03/2024 09:00

Has he shown any other signs of not being trustworthy?

Ihearyousingingdownthewire · 25/03/2024 09:08

Yeah I expect he’s shagging about. Gut feelings are worth listening to.

chuggachug · 25/03/2024 11:27

Hmm. Not much to go on but you know him well. Lasting unusually long is a bit suspicious if you know him really well.

But I would need a WHOLE lot more than that to be properly concerned.

Is there really nothing else? Grumpy, necklace, confused about how many times and lasting longer is not exactly conclusive

Mollyj1234 · 25/03/2024 13:11

There was a female ‘friend’ that text him last time I was here but she was saved as an initial and he has been weird with his phone recently (slept with it in his shorts pocket).

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BengalGal · 25/03/2024 13:13

Sleeping with his phone is definitely suss

BobbyBiscuits · 25/03/2024 13:15

Yeah, sounds like he may be cheating. He's probably on Viagra hence the stamina.
The phone in jeans/shorts pocket for sleep isn't normal. Unless he was blind drunk and passed out...surely the phone is locked so he just doesn't want you to see the notifications.

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