To be so shocked by this?

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In a lift today at family attraction. Mum, dad, two older kids and mum carrying a toddler. Maybe 18 months. Toddler starts kicking off, wants to press the buttons. Standard I thought.

Anyway mum says 'child, you are fucking doing my head in!', followed by 'you are vile' and 'I hate you!'

I just felt so sad and shocked like what chance does that baby have if that's how her mum speaks to her in public?? Rest of the family didn't bat an eyelid.

Gosh. And the family didn't step in??

That’s terrible. Poor toddler. 😢

No one said anything I wish I had now but I guess just wanted to get out of there and hope my kids didn't notice.

That is really shocking. I guess all we can hope is that this was an awful day for her and this is out of character. Doesn’t seem so from the family’s reaction but may be. I know if you’d seen me parenting as a snap shot during my worst moment you’d not have been impressed either, but 90% I’m good enough to very good.

TBH , I don't think I'd have said anything in a lift (you have nowhere to run to !)

They might ignore it because it's nothing new to them.
If the toddler was so bad , why not give her to the Dad to hold ?

Normally I'd agree @Dancedancedancetilyerdead I don't like to judge but bloody hell!! I know toddlers can push your buttons but come on!

I wouldn't have appreciated the use of language in front of my kids, and (this is just who I am) have told adults, politely before to please mind their language in front of my DD. It's just so unnecessary.

I completely understand you not saying anything. You had children with you, no where to step away too and gos knows what whe would have unleashed on an adult.

I hate seeing this sort of behaviour. It always sticks with me because I think what kind of life must the poor mite have if that's what is shown in public?

Not quite the same but I've never forgotten my DH telling me he once saw, out of his city centre office window overlooking a square of communal gardens, a group of about 6 twenty somethings. One was a woman with a buggy and a toddler in it. She filled a kids lidded beaker up out of a freshly opened can of (strong) lager and gave it to the toddler like it was the most normal thing in the world.
I didn't even see it and it made me feel sick. It was about ten years ago and still haven't forgotten it. DH reported to the police but by the time they showed up the group had moved on.

You probably would have got a mouthful of abuse in return. People who speak to their young children like that are hardly going to take any notice of an offended stranger 😒

I'm a sweary mum and I find that language absolutely abhorrent when directed towards a child, never mind a baby/toddler.

It's not the swearing that offends me perse, it's the statements 'you're vile' and 'I hate you' what the fuck is wrong with the type of twat who would speak in such a way to their child?

Yeah exactly @NotCute many a time I've said FFS under my breath but this was just so direct and nasty. The first comment you could have thought 'it's been a bad day', but 'you're vile' and 'I hate you' who says that??

I have told my two that they are doing my head in and to go play when arguing over peppa for the 2yo and something more "grown up" for the 7yo. But it was more in a jokey way and I'd never ever say I hated my children.

Agree ! The last time I said something to a mum who was hitting her 4 year old around the head I was chased down the road then she was waving her fist at my face in front of my toddler who was in a pushchair. this is the problem with people this nasty that you just don't know what they are going to do.

The problem is, any idiot can have children. It’s scary.

Would you have behaved differently if you knew you were being filmed?

Some people are living such degraded lives and don't have any conception of what normal behaviour looks like. I don't know why they bother having children.

They are a disgusting