For context illness has put intimacy on a bit of a lull, it is a rare event these days.
I dared sugest a romantic break away to reconnect which was agreed. Off we go, stunning country spa hotel, have a light lunch, few drinks, explore the hotel then grab our things and head to the spa. In the room grabbing things he lays down and nods off...........for an hour. I waited patiently. Then says hes not in the mood to swim but begrudgingly comes with me, we arrive and hes forgotten swim things.....goes back to room and never returns.
I swam, i sat in the outdoor hot tub under the stars alone waiting.
When I returned to the room he was in bed watching football.
I fell asleep sometime during the football but awoke around 11pm to find he had gone to the bar, eventually returning to sleep off the drink.
He was in a foul mood the next morning and at 7am just told me we were leaving.
My assunption is that he was expecting s3x after the football and was angry i was asleep.
AIBU to expect a romantic break to be romantic? To spend time with the focus being on eachother NOT the usual football and booze.
I am actually thinking that he thinks because he paid for a hotel i should just (do it) I am so fed up, it was a beautifull place and could have been so lovely and all i felt was rejected and lonely.
Why am i the one left feeling bad.
He has stomped off to the pub all day today.