Am I being hormonal?

[2ndmum2be]

Am I right to feel upset my husband plans to be 3 hours away at a DJ gig 2 days after I'm due to have our 2nd baby ? Doesn't see it being an issue for me to have potentially given birth 2 days prior with an already 5 year old at home too. Or even if I haven't gone into labour yet and do whilst he's away he will just come back. Am I supposed to wait 3+hours for him to get back to get to drop out first born somewhere and get to a hospital? Am I being unreasonable?

For context it's likely he won't be paid or anything and will be gone all that afternoon and evening with that travel time 😔 thank you

He's an idiot.

No you’re not being hormonal, he’s being a selfish idiot. The likelihood of keeping a second baby in whilst waiting 3 hours for him to get back is low. Is he ok with missing the birth?

Thank you 🥹 he wants to be there. I don't know our first born was bang on due date so maybe he's thinking like that? Got the impression of that when he said you'll be own your own with both of them alot I'm not giving this up. I never asked him too but just didn't expect him to go over 3 hours away when potentially we have a 2 day old baby or I'm still not in labour 😔 I said what if it's a C-section as they have said them may have to do that if my placenta doesn't move out the way and his response was so. I said mother's usually can't do much for 6 months to which I got well I'll take 6 months of work then and at that point I walked away and haven't spoken to him since. I shouldn't have to explain how this isn't ok right? Even if it is a normal delivery your body has to heal and like my first post we already have a 5 year old that pushes the boundaries 😞

Oh god your update, it sounds even worse. I mean seriously what sort of selfish prick thinks this is ok.

When you say he's already pushing g boundaries what do you mean?

Sorry should of elaborated ! Just typical 5 year old stuff 😅 can still take an hour to get him to sleep, is quite demanding ect... Which you know, is absolutely fine but I'm sure that will get elevated once the competition arrives 😂 I don't think I would mind as bad if this one coming would be the only one I'd need to worry about. Panicking about going from 1 to 2 as it is let alone on the 2nd day running completely solo. 😅 Let alone if this one is late and I go into labour on my own with our 5 year old around also 🙈

But thank you! Haven't said another word to him since. Childish remark about the C-section I didn't want the row to escalate 🙄. I'd be ok with a week later but that's so close to my due date

I would say to him if he goes, then don't come back.

You’re not being hormonal. You’re being rational.

He’s being a selfish, entitled little prick.

I'd be tempted to tell him not to come back too.

OP, he doesn't care, he is not worried.

Accept it and have back up plans ready for you and your child. Otherwise you'll just keep arguing about why you're less important than an unpaid gig.

This is how he feels and hes told you to get used to it. So either do that, or boot him out.

Look I'm a lone parent so can survive most shit on my own but there is no way you should expect to, totally unreasonable of him to expect you to either a) cope with newborn just out of hospital on your own with a young DC or b) leave you still heavily pregnant ready to give birth etc

Honestly he's an asshole.

Thank you everyone 🙂 great to hear it's not just me being crazy! He's not brought it up since even with my radio silence and I posted this after it happened ... 1st post I've done here... I didn't want to confide in friends or anything so there view on him goes down 🙈 he's still the Dad and I can't picture doing it without him but he was similar with our first born and still is in a way. He's a great Dad don't get me wrong but I take the brunt of most of it I'm old fashioned and thats fine but now feels like it's just expected. I'm grateful he has a genuine hobby but time to myself is never reciprocated and if a person ever deserved some it's after childbirth surely 🤣 7 months pregnant yet I still take our first born out all weekend to spend time with him keep him entertained ect...to come back and cook, clean ect and if I don't I'm the lazy bad guy 🙄 I just know all that will be 10 times harder with 2 of them, I didn't expect to go through it all alone again 😞