Or is this the ultimate ‘where’s the…?’

[Dancedancedancetilyerdead]

So last week I was at a hospital appointment. I have some health issues going on and this was an invasive procedure that I wasn’t looking forward to. I didn’t say much about it to DH and was happy to go on my own, so he might not have realised how inappropriate this was, but…

Waiting inbetween two bits of the procedure he called. I didn’t pick up as was in the waiting room with others around, waiting to go back in.

Afterwards I asked him if everything’s OK. Why did he call.

To ask me where X was!!!

To be clear, I never use X. He was the last to use it.

So AIBU or does he get the medal for the ultimate ‘where’s the?’… Anyone with a more rage making one?

I get this at home a lot. I just ignore it and don’t answer because within two minutes there is usually a ‘found it!’ - Because it is usually in the place you bloody well would think it would be if you used your brain instead of your mouth to locate it!!

My DH has been known to ring me and ask which aisle of Tesco something is in... while he's standing in Tesco and I'm at home.

Hope your procedure went well!

I used to get this a lot, especially after we moved house although decisions about where things go were always made together. It was just laziness. So my weapon was to wait until he was sitting down relaxing and ask if he was busy, when he said no I would suggest that it might be a good time to go around the house and familiarise himself with things so he would know for next time. I did this several times suggesting different rooms and he got really irritated. Now he only rings if he absolutely genuinely can't find it after looking everywhere.

What was it?

😂😂

I'm curious as well to know what 'X' was🤔

is he generally a very selfish self-absorbed twat?

i could understand buzzing at tesco but when you’re about to have a hospital procedure?! he’s either forgotten or didn’t care

I also need to know what X was

Is it to do with his outing hobby cycling ??

😂 No not to do with his outing hobby. I won’t say as it’s very specific and he’d know it was him if he looked on here.

He tries very hard not to be but…

I got my husband a treat/gift and made a hunt all around the house with clues such as ’where the tea towels live’ and ‘with the spare shopping bags’.

Funny enough he located his gift and he asks where household items are kept are less now…….

It was a lighthearted way to show him, he does actually know this stuff.

Thanks.

Oh dear god, that would tip me over edge! I quite often get a call from the shop asking if we need X or Y.

Brilliant. I just keep quiet like I haven’t heard and 9 times out of 10 he manages to find it.

Love this idea!!

I normally get “well that’s funny. Where’s that gone” until I go and help. Infuriating

“No idea Sweetie? Shall I ask the surgeon look for it after he inserts the speculum???”
🏥🏥🏥

That is irritating but easy to ignore. He’s not asking for anything. He doesn’t get the medal but might be a runner up!

Luckily I didn’t answer or I might have said something similar!

Absolutely love this! Wish I’d done that when we moved!

Hold my beer.

Last week I was away and DH texted to ask where the oats were (we've just moved house, so fair enough). I told him. He texted back that no, he'd checked that cupboard and they weren't there. I had to FaceTime him to point out the oats which of course were exactly where I'd said they were.

Hmmm. Drink your beer. I think he may have the medal. That’s hilarious and rage making in equal measures!

Late to the party, but a similar vein… I was in hospital very ill with sepsis last week and my DS - almost 18 phoned to ask “Hey… (all phonecall start that way despite my protestations) - Did you wash my X T Shirt?” (I wasn’t going to deign to answer that one) and then instant realization that he could have picked a better time and place…) “Oh, if you haven’t, it doesn’t matter…. I was just wondering where it was?” - You’re making it even worse, Mate. Use your own eyes and your own brain. That field of fucks is really barren.

Oh dear god! Mind you, he has the excuse of a developing brain and at least he cottoned on. Hopefully a lesson learned!!
Hope you are all better now.

@Dancedancedancetilyerdead - He put that down to having a brain fart. He was pretty traumatised at the time, really. He was the only one in the family who was contactable when I realised I was unwell. He caught an Uber home and drove me to the hospital in my car. By the time I got there I was semi-conscious and a bit delirious and he had no idea what was going on. I have a heart condition so he knew it was very serious. Luckily my DH and other DDs were able to get there within about an hour and another good friend came and drove all the kids home but he hadn’t really slept. They’re all still pretty stressed about it I think.

Blimey. That sounds awful. Hope there are smoother times ahead. 💐