Do you still think about an ex from long ago?

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I've never been one to date much but I briefly saw someone a few years ago for a few months.

It wasn't serious and it quickly fizzled out. In all honesty I wasn't too attracted to him.

I still think about him a lot, though.

Anyone else?

Hello

Of course, and it’s only natural.
People touch our lives in different ways. I remember old neighbours and work colleagues and think about them too.

Do you think about them in a way that is affecting your life or any future relationship though?
That’s different

Only in nightmares.

Yes I do. And I wish them well wherever they are.

I very occasionally wonder what he's up to, but not in a yearning for him way. In a totally nosey way 😄

Occasionally but it was a long time ago and we were only kids, who had a problem keeping our clothes on.

Weirdly, I live right around the corner from where his sister lived. I always wonder if she moved elsewhere, or is it just fortuitous that we haven't bumped into each other. She was a very lovely woman.

DH and I were discussing our exes last night and what attracted us to them. We're both still in touch with them. We've been together nearly 40 years so not a threat to us as a couple.

Yes, he crops up in my dreams sometimes. He was a rubbish boyfriend and I had much nicer ones that I never think about. DH and I are going through a rough patch with very little intimacy so that might be why I'm thinking of my ex more.

I often think about my first boyfriend who was 15, the youngest of 4 siblings to 2 alcoholics in a concrete suburb. He was taken into care eventually and sent away to boarding school and I wonder if it changed him and if he survived.

One I loved very much but knew that I would eventually become incompatible with- wanting different things in life. I don't regret my choice but it upended and then influenced and coloured my life for many years afterwards. I didn't leave because of a lack of love. I grieved. He was my uni boyfriend.

I've moved on and I love my husband totally. He's the first person since the ex that I've loved really and it took 7 years to find him. I'd not swap. I do however, occasionally google my ex (no social media but a science career means I can track his publishing and can see the odd photo). I like to see how he's doing. I need to know. He is flourishing and the smile on his face is enough. I am pleased for him and proud of him. I made the right choice.

The only other one I look up was someone borderline abusive. We were seeing each other but I got away. I like to check where he is - he's got a fairly public linked in and is still in the wider area. I know one day I'll check and he'll be dead or in prison, too.

Yes, I think about my first long term boyfriend a lot. The relationship didn’t work out, we both moved on, but I genuinely still really care for him and hope he’s well. We were good friends.

One I loved very much but knew that I would eventually become incompatible with- wanting different things in life. I don't regret my choice but it upended and then influenced and coloured my life for many years afterwards. I didn't leave because of a lack of love. I grieved. He was my uni boyfriend

My situation was very like this one actually. We never stopped loving each other, it just wouldn’t have worked in the long term.

All 5 of mine totally baffle me. I’m so ashamed of them all. My picker is broke.

Yes my first serious relationship. I lived with him for a couple of years and then I left him for someone else. Looking back now I realise it was because we were not compatible and wanted different things. I wasn't able to understand that at the time let alone communicate it to him but I have been diagnosed with autism and firmly believe he is too. I see him very occasionally going about town (perhaps every 2/3 years) and sometimes we chat and sometimes we avoid each other. I loved him deeply but the relationship would not have worked in the end if I had stayed. I think the absolute world of him even now. It's not always bad when they become an ex.

I do. He was my first boyfriend and I was in love with him. We were about 18. My friends didn't like him. Looking back, they were right; he was not a good man. I've not seen him for many years, probably close to 15 years, but I do at times still think about him.

Oddly I have had dreams about him recently. I ended it when I was 19, I'm late sixties, so a lifetime ago.

It was going nowhere and he was controlling and what triggered it was, he punched me in the face, he hadn't been violent before.

I was stalked which I found out after the police had a word, he then turned up at my work, I talked to him but was clear there would be no reconciliation. Then he turned up at a nightclub with another girl and kept standing in front of me, I said to her, he needs to stop this, I think she was unaware why they were visiting a club in a different town.

It did stop then and a school friend from his town, told me he was getting married because he'd got a girl pregnant.

Never want to see him ever again, not a moments regret.

Yes, from about 10 years ago. I'd gone through a lot in life and he was the first person to treat me nicely. But he ended up really hurting me. Think about him a lot

Mostly in a “dodged a bullet” way😂

I've had a little snoop in the past to see what they've done with themselves in life and what they look like.

No regrets though, I'm happy with my DH and life. I'm just nosey.

Still friends with most of mine. Saw my first kiss from when I was a teen last summer when he was over from NZ. Was in touch with my first serious boyfriend yesterday (talking about the weather and spring.) Am in my 50s, so it's been a few decades.

My first boyfriend in highschool was violent. I recently saw a picture of him on a friends facebook page and didn’t recognize him because he looked so awful and unwell. Apparently he is single with no family and has been unemployed for a long time. I can tell by the photo he is still as vain and grandiose as ever and it’s just sad. I was angry at him for being abusive but I didn’t expect life to treat him so harshly. It’s been weighing on my mind a bit, I don’t know what makes a person turn out like this.

Bittersweet reading this