Nothing to talk about with Dh

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Do you find lots to talk about with your Dh?
I often feel Dh doesn’t really listen or sort of rushes me along when I’m talking.
Last night, he came home, we had takeaway and he called about his work until he took Dd to bed. Today I talked a bit about Dd and her friend at school, he rushed it along a bit, I talked about a school mum of DD’s friend and all the activities he does, not hugely exciting, true, but he literally cut me off, put YouTube on and said that Elon mush was at it again and showed me a rocket taking off. My face must’ve said it all as I literally have no interest in Elon musk or rockets and he was pissed off.
I always have plenty to discuss with friends and my parents…it’s making me feel down
Do you talk lots and find the conversations interesting?

I do, but DP is a bit older than me and is my second proper long term relationship, so he has lots of stories to tell. But we do have day to day discussions as well.

If you’ve been together a while and spent most your adult lives together I can see how you may not have loads to say that’s not already been said. But perhaps you also don’t have much in common as well?

*Talked about his work

I find hearing about his work very boring, but don’t show that and do listen

*Musk

Well yes we do have things to talk about but we do things besides work. We listen to each other too.

He’s just becoming increasingly obsessed with the cats and talks to them more than he does me. It’s quite amusing.

Op this reminds me of when I was in a relationship some years back where my partner clearly had no interest in what I had to say. He would literally roll his eyes at me and say 'skip to the end'. One time he even looked me dead in the face while I was mid sentence and said 'I don't care' then went back to watching something on tv that was clearly more interesting to him.

Even though it deeply hurt me, I thought I was the problem, that I talked too much or waffled on too long.

Turns out I wasn't the problem he was just a fucking arsehole 😂

I'd be honest. I have, on occasion, said similar to DH, "can you pretend to listen, please? I have to listen to your incredibly boring work talk and I pretend to care at a professional level". He laughs, but it does go in.

Me and DH are like this sometimes, but we still listen to each other and at least try to show interest.

We've been together 16 years though, so most of the time we discuss who's making the next brew or where we're going on holiday next.
Suits me.

Yes, but DH is an amusing talker, we both do interesting, and very different, things for a living, and also do a fair amount of leisure things off our own bat that are fun to talk over. And we’re both readers.

Generally speaking we have lots to talk about; about all kinds of things under the sun. I love talking though! But sometimes we're quiet or a monosyllabic. If we're tired, involved with something like work prep. We spend time together, or apart in the house happily.

I'm probably more likely to yabba on to get something of my chest and dh probably not as tuned in as he might be sometimes. But vice versa sometimes.