To not go out anymore..

[proatminecraft123]

36. Mum of 2 children ages 2 and 7. In relationship for 12 years, house etc.

I just don't enjoy going out anymore really. I don't mind going for a nice meal and some cocktails but that's it.

I've got "friends" from my past, who still go out a lot, ladies day at the races, nights out drinking. Just the thought of it gives me anxiety. I think a lot of these friends only see each other when doing these kind of things (which always involve spending money) together.

AIBU to just want friends who just come see you for a cup of tea or a walk somewhere??

I've never liked going 'out out' and it's working fine for me.

Don't do stuff you don't enjoy, life's too short.

Do whatever you like, if those friends are from your past then it doesn’t really matter what they enjoy doing, you’re under no obligation to go along if you don’t enjoy it but equally they’re perfectly entitled to have big nights out.

Some of my friends I do coffee and walks with, some I go to theirs and we drink, others I go out out with and there's the rare one or two I do all three with. It's whatever makes you happy at the end of the day.

I couldn't possibly think of anything worse than those things you mention. My perfect night is a quiet night in and that was well before kids too. Nothing at all wrong with that, pretty normal IME.

I know what you mean,years ago i was never in but now i am happy being home.
My home is warm and comfortable and after a busy week at work and everything else on top the last thing i want is to go out , my husband is very similar.
I see friends for a meal once a month or so but that's enough for me , and i like to be home early ish when i do go out !
Actually most of my friends are the same too , when i think back to my wild days !!!

I’m the same, got 2 kids now and hate the thought of going out on the drink! I would rather have a couple in the house! Xx

I never go out out. Me and DH will occasionally go for a meal but more often than not we are just happier being at home. Rarely socialise with anyone, I find peopling exhausting we prefer it when it’s just us 😬

I love going out, but I would be just as happy to meet a friend for a walk or just popping round for a coffee. A real friend wouldn't mind what you do, they'd just be happy to see you.

Just do what you enjoy. Life's too short to waste time and money doing things you no longer find pleasurable. In my teens, 20s and early 30s, I spent a lot of time getting drunk, staying out until the early hours. Now I can't think of anything worse!
These days I enjoy walks, tea and cake, lunch or dinner out, having friends over for a meal. That kind of thing. Fortunately I have friends who enjoy the same thing.

Doesn't have to be either or. Do what you like, and don't judge others if they do the same.

These days I much prefer to either go to a friends house for drinks/food, or they come to me, or a local pub and stay in that pub all night ie no trapsing around from pub to pub.
I have a close friend who loves nothing more than going 'out out' inc days out, events etc. Really not my thing but I go along for her. I also find it hard to get the balance between seeing friends and spending time with DH. Said close friend is trying to line up seeing me for 3 Saturdays in a row. I don't think this is fair on DH to leave him home alone for 3 Saturdays in a row, especially when 2 of the Saturdays would involve spendimlng the whole day with my friend. My friend is single and wants her time filled.

Our interests and likes can change over time for a number of reasons. They are not wrong if they still enjoy that, you are not wrong to not enjoy it anymore. If you do not then do not go. Bigger question why you "friends" like that. Makes it seem like you do not really like them.

I wouldn’t like not going out again. But I’m not you.
you do you. Whatever you want to do and makes you happy is fine. I’ve never understood why people force themselves to do things they don’t like.
you might change your mind and go back to it when kids are older. That’s ok too.

We were complete party animals back in the day. Now we are happy indoors. Done it all. Not missed anything. In fact nowadays we have be winkled out of our shells. See family for a beer and a curry. Went on holiday two weeks ago. Lovely to be home x

Yes. Find new friends, OP, and select for those who want cups of coffee at home. No need to sneer at those who like spending money and going drinking — it’s a morally neutral decision to prefer that over coffee around the kitchen table. No one is wrong.