To feel there’s something huge missing from my life

[Imisspets]

I have a husband and children.

I really, really miss animals. I love them and always thought I’d have a house filled with dogs and cats and a garden with chickens and maybe even a horse.

DH just really isn’t into animals at all.

i know you can’t make someone be into them but I do feel a hole in my life.

Can't u compromise? Get a pet ?

He really doesn’t like them @BCBird . We have a family members pet with us now while they’re in hospital and he hasn’t stopped complaining.

Does it matter if he's not into them? Get a pet and look after them yourself.

Swapping a dh for a ddog would solve your problem imo.

Can you not trade DH for a rescue dog?!

Can you get an outside pet? Bunny, guinea pig. They can still be cuddly etc.

Can you afford a horse?
He wouldn't have to have anything to do with it then.

What kind of pet are you looking after? Maybe the pet is stressed being away from home and your DH isn’t used to having it there and things will improve with time?

I love horses but there is zero chance of having my own so I started helping out at an animal rescue place. Not the same as having your own but better than nothing.

Do not do this.

A pet should be something everyone in the house agrees to - unless it's a fish or something equally as unobtrusive. A dog can't just be ignored by other people in the house. If my DH got a dog without me wanting one, I'd be furious. Thankfully he doesn't want one either but if he did and it meant that much to him, he shouldn't have married me.

Thanks. I think it’s just the difference between how I thought my life would look and how it is, is stark.

DH really doesn’t like them. It would just cause so much stress. We did have a cat once and he just complained constantly.

Chickens are just lovely if you were happy to do the cleaning and feeding. He wouldn’t have to deal with them in the house and you’d all get to enjoy the eggs!

could you afford to stable a horse? what do you do for work?

I don’t know if it’s possible to have a horse without it affecting your partner, unless you could easily afford full livery. Otherwise it would take so much time and money there’s bound to be an effect on the whole family.

Why didn't you discuss this before embarking on a relationship with him .
A no animal ban would see me run tbh .

If you can find the time you could volunteer at a shelter or get involved in some other way where you are exposed to animals. Maybe even dog walks for an elderly neighbour a few times a week. I don't know but I'm sure there are groups that organise this. It might help fill the void.

I couldn’t be with someone who said no animals. We have dogs, horses, children, chicken, g pigs etc

There must be compromise eg animals

I would feel the same as you OP. I had a lot of pets growing up, DH had none. MIL thinks having animals in the house is disgusting so it was never even considered. I decided I wanted a cat and he pulled his face about it at first... we now have four cats, and he absolutely dotes on them. And chickens! If there's absolutely no talking your DH round I would seriously consider swapping him for the animals to be honest. Couldn't be without them.

I had a huge ddog before I met dh. He knew full well if he didn't love ddog and vice versa we would have been a non starter..

Yep, drop your H at the rescue and leave with several animals. Change the locks just in case he finds his way back.

Live your life happily ever after.

Fuck that, even now my DH knows if he didn't love any animal I brought into the house he'd be gone 😂 in fact, his coat was on a shaky nail last night when he called our cat a dick. Tbf he is a dick but still...

I couldn't live happily without pets. My partner could, but he knows my happiness depends on them, so we have 2 dogs, 2 guinea pigs and a horse 😂 Your husband is being selfish.