I'm just wanting opinions please. I was once part of an online forum. The subject matter of the forum meant that like minded people came together, and it was a very pleasant group.
Some members of the group went on to build friendships outside of the group, on Facebook, WhatsApp etc. I did, and included in that friendship circle was a man who seemed a really nice, grounded, decent chap. I was married at the time, so chats were very much just chatty and there were no innuendos, or anything at all inappropriate. This carried on for nearly 3 yrs. As it turns out my marriage ended after I found out my ex-husband was cheating on me. The chats with this other guy had continued, and we have over the years discussed many things, and have had some really interesting conversations.
When I told this guy that my marriage had ended, he said he was there if I needed to talk. He then chose to tell me that as a result of our chats over the years he'd become very fond of me, and that I lit up his day when my messages came through, he said he'd also found me to be very intelligent and likeable from my messages, and their content. He's single, and has never been married.
Well as it turns out, we grew quite close. We unexpectedly had an opportunity to meet up, due to me having to work very close to where he lives for 3 days. He knew I was going to be quite local, but didn't say anything, so I asked if he wanted to meet up and maybe go for a drink. He was very enthusiastic. Well the day came, and I waited to hear from him, after a while I was a little unsure what to do, so I tried to contact him, I tried to call, but it went to voicemail, so I sent a text. Within minutes, he replied saying he'd fallen asleep. He said he was sorry, I just replied with it was fine, and we'd probably meet another time. He rang me briefly and said he was asleep, but he'd ring me later. He didn't call.
I sat and thought things through, and as he hasn't called so we could chat, I called him. I asked him during the call if he'd ever had any intention of turning up earlier that day. He became very defensive, and said he'd fully intended to. He went off on a tangent then wanting to discuss anything but that meet up. He told me I was being "silly" He then started telling me to repeat the letters spelling out S-I-L-L-Y stating if I didn't he'd put the phone down. I was very surprised by his behaviour. I ended the call quite abruptly saying I'd go to go and tend to something.
I really didn't like his behaviour, and after much thought I sent a text, I stayed that his falling asleep excuse sounded a bit flimsy, and it seemed odd that he woke up within minutes of my text... Yet he claimed to be 'dead to the World'. He also didn't call later that evening as he'd said he would, which is why I rang him.
After I'd sent the text stating that his "silly" exercise seemed to be taking the piss, and that his threatening to hang up if I didn't comply came over as very controlling, and demeaning of me. He again got very defensive. By this point, I'd decided I'd seen a side of him that I didn't like, and I wouldn't be in touch with him again. I then got a long text from him stating his 'truth'... It was basically all critical of me. How I had disappointed him in not believing his excuse of falling asleep (I'd told him I felt that excuse was untrue, and it was more a case he just didn't want to meet up)
Well the 'truth' just kept on coming, and by the end of it I just thought he was unraveling, it was very odd. I decided to just leave him with it, and blocked him. I forgot to block him on messenger though, and he sent me a message the next day on there like nothing had ever happened asking if I'd had a nice day. I didn't reply. I blocked him on that too.
I'm just wondering what people's opinions are on such behaviour? Does it seem odd? Did I overreact?
I've honestly never come across anything like this before. How can someone speak to someone for years, then behave like this?
I'm rather confused 🤔