To find pregnancy hard

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First pregnancy, second trimester, if anyone else tells me I should be feeling amazing and/or it's the best I'll ever feel, I will have to throw something at them.

I feel so sad and pathetic and miserable. I don't have HG or anything serious. Every pregnant woman I know is so happy and glowing and healthy. Except for one work colleague who has been in and out of hospital with HG and I obviously cannot compare my relatively easy experience with that.

I was actually very fit before pregnancy so was probably overconfident going into this.

But first trimester I was nauseous 24/7 and had crippling horrific insomnia. Second trimester now I have the worst tailbone pain and I'm so uncomfortable. I literally had 2 weeks of feeling well. I tried to control my eating so I don't get fat but I can't stop eating because I'm on the sofa, bored, in pain and so weak and sad. Can't even go for a long walk to clear my head as I'm in pain. I can't remember my confidence ever being so low in my life.

God knows what horror the third trimester will bring, I'm now terrified because apparently it's the hardest part?

From my experience, it was so much better when baby was born. There's obvs a whole new set of challenges, but you have them with you, not just the symptoms 😂

I hated being pregnant. I did not glow. I was so sick. It was a means to an end.

I have often pointed out to DH how OVERWHELMINGLY AND INSANELY LUCKY he is to be the dad. Bit of shagging, nothing for 9 months, few hours sitting on an uncomfortable chair in the labour ward.

Biology sucks

Try not to compare yourself to other people and their pregnancies, what I've learnt is that they can look like they're breezing through it (which always made me feel negative about myself) but in actual fact they were struggling too.

I've got really bad pelvic and tail bone pain with this pregnancy and I have an appointment with the physio for next week. I was really surprised with how quickly I got an appointment. Could you ask your midwife for the physio team number?

Have you had a blood panel? You could be anaemic or low in vit B/D, or hypothyroid. Pregnancy messes up lots of our checks and balances x

'Glow' is the biggest pile of shyte ever!!!

Thank you everyone. I needed a bit of solidarity, I was feeling so alone writing that last night although it's shit how many of struggle❤

My blood work is all fine and I am already seeing a physio and have an ob gyn (I'm living abroad atm and have private care).

Nothing is seriously wrong but I think:

1. all the nausea, aches and pains, insomnia etc cumulatively are like death by 1000 cuts; and
2. unrealistic expectations on my part. I wasn't expecting to be so worn out as I was fit and active and wrongly (so so so very wrongly) thought that that means pregnancy is plain sailing.

It's been a lesson in humility I think. I really have a new found respect for pregnant women/mothers.

Also I have a newly found resentment against my DP. He's such a sweet man but his life has not changed one bit. I thought I'd be ok with it but every time he goes for a run or a social, I just think I wish I could do that 😥

I'm also the higher earner and he has such a comparatively much easier job while I work 50 hour weeks and cannot take a single sick day or complain at work so i don't get my bonus cut. My career is totally my choice but I suddenly wish someone else was taking care of me so I could take it easy.

My DH was terrified my entire pregnancy, I was an absolute she-beast the first two trimesters. They recover. Everytime he chugged a coffee or energy drink he inched away from me out of smacking range. My emotions mellowed out tremendously in my third trimester. The aches and pains and reflux did not. It does get tougher but you will make it! I acted very precious towards the end of my second pregnancy so I understand that you want to be taken care of. If not now then when for God sakes. Once you're mum there's no more opportunities to enjoy a bit of woe-is-me pity from your loved ones

How are your iron levels? I found my mood in pregnancy improved a lot when I started taking iron tablets.

Pregnancy is shit. It'll be worth it in the end so just get through it as best you can.

Pregnancy is really hard!! I do think people underestimate how difficult it can be, I know I definitely did! I’m now 37 weeks and literally counting down the days until I can have a glass of wine, lie down on my tummy, sleep without desperately needing a wee every 20 minutes and get dressed without having to squeeze something over my huge bump 🤣 I know how lucky I am to be pregnant and I am so so grateful for that, I can’t wait to meet my baby and I would go through this 100 times over for her BUT that doesn’t mean it’s not really fucking hard! X

I’m having a very easy pregnancy by all accounts. But I’m not glowing, I look old and wrinkled. I’m tired, more so now in second than first trimester. I have no motivation to do anything, and I feel irrationally furious if I have to go out more than once on a weekend! I work 50-65 hours per week and I also can’t really take any days off for anything. Roll on maternity leave!