To want people to get my name right?

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I have a fairly common name which can be spelt in a few ways.

At least once a week across various platforms someone gets it wrong. I'm almost at peace with spelling variations, but the more common occurrence is people use a similar (but incorrect) name. It's often strangers but also sometimes by people I interact with semi regularly.

I'm trying to be relaxed about it, but it grinds my gears!! It's been happening for years and doesn't seem to be anything I can do about it so it would be better for me if I could just let it go tbh. But it irks me!

Is it unreasonable to expect people to get my name right?

same. A not uncommon name but it gets spelled/shortened/pronounced in all sorts of ways. sigh

Not unreasonable. My first, middle and last names can all be spelt differently and invariably they are!

Not unreasonable at all. I have a woman at work who insists on calling me 'Harriet' - and ignores the fact that I have repeatedly told her, 'It's Hatty, Jean - not Harriet'. She apparently doesn't like nicknames.

The name on my birth certificate is actually Henrietta - not Harriet! (Slightly outing to those who know me).

Oh goodness how frustrating!!

Not unreasonable.

My first and surnames run together to make a different name. Despite working for the same organisation for 20 years, I still get " So xxxxxxxxxx, what is your surname? To which I say it's xxxxx, my first nabe is xxxxx".

Thanks all! I've been telling myself to let it go and then berating myself for not being able to. So it's validating to know it's not just me!!!

This happens to me too. One of my colleagues has the actual first name which my first and surname combined make. I can't really blame the others for getting confused as I'm terrible with names (more for forgetting them all together though rather than getting them wrong).

Think you need to cut some people some slack. I’m dyslexic and there’s a few names I really struggle with, both writing and pronouncing. If yours was one of the names I struggle with I would have to look it up and copy and paste it on each message to get it right- I wouldn’t even be able to copy it correctly.

And on the names I struggle to pronounce, I know there’s two or three ways- and I can keep straight which one is right and which one is wrong- this happens almost invariably when I have been introduced to someone in writing first.

I can get that, esp with written communication. But in a verbal exchange, if somebody has corrected their name to you, likely on more than one occasion, surely there's no excuse for continuing to use the incorrect name?

I can’t do it. I know there are two pronunciations, I know one is wrong and one is right, I can’t keep straight which way round is which. I’m pretty upfront about it and apologetic. It’s just the way my brain is wired. I have problems processing words, totally my failing, but not something I can ‘fix’

My name is pretty common, it's most commonly spelled with a Y at the end, but for the last decade or so people have used an I instead, and they make my name longer.

Along the lines of my name being Katy, but people spell it Kati, or call me Cathrine.

It's very annoying, and something that takes 2 seconds to check.

Dyslexia isn’t just about writing. People have all sorts of different processing issues, issues around processing of sounds is quite common.

Invent a different but slightly similar name for her and call her by it. Every. Single. Time.

With respect, if you're upfront about it then I'm pretty sure you're not the type of person they're referring to?

Thanks @paintingvenice and @Herdinggoats , it's not something I've thought of before!

I have a friend, not a very close friend, but we've known each other for years. I have been spelling her name as Anne Marie as I could have sworn she told me it was two separate words and an 'e' on the Anne. She recently wrote my son a congratulations card signed Annmarie and I'm blinking mortified! DP usually writes any cards to her and her family as they are his friends really, but she and I text from time to time and I have been saying 'Hi Anne Marie ...' She probably thinks I'm a right muppet.

I have a difficult to spell first and second name. And middle name. It's par of the course. I don't bat an eyelid now.

I try hard, but begrudge the time it takes to search the emails to check if it’s Claire or Clare, Jonathan or Jonathon. I have no way to remember even though I try hard. So I keep checking. I’m grinding my gears as I check so fair’s fair I suppose

This happens to me a lot. Sometimes it’s funny but mostly I don’t even think about it. It’s clear to me that it’s not personal and that people can find even the most straightforward names difficult.

I don't think it's unreasonable and generally I take care over people's names. I wouldn't call someone Dave, if he was introduced to me as David, for example, unless he asked me to, but people make mistakes.

I was mortified to learn I've been spelling a colleague's name incorrectly for months. I do usually check, but for some reason had got it in my head that this was the right way. I wish he'd told me.

I have a first name that can be spelt prob about 5 ways. And considering its only 5 letters that's quite a lot.
I couldn't care less to be honest. Everyone CALLS me by the correct name (I would find that annoying) but I think when writing electronically it often picks the spelling you'd normally use ie Claire not clare.
However I've family members (via marriage) that have known me for 30yrs who still write cards wrong etc despite my name being written in every birthday and xmas card to them. They are not doing it to upset me, too late to worry about it so I just let it go.