To insist that DH’s beloved computer goes upstairs?

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DH has a computer that is a complete eyesore. It’s pissed me off no end for the 12 years we have lived in this house. It’s scruffy, no sides on it (but the sides are propped up against it 🤬) massive stupid speaker things, wires everywhere and the desk just collects crap - it’s absolutely covered in claptrap. This morning I broke a usb thing trying to get it into the computer because the stupid desk is so full of shit inside and into of that you just can’t move anything or see anything properly. This eyesore is sat in the dining room 🤬

The most annoying bit about it is we have 3 spare bedrooms. I’ve taken one as a hobby room, one is done out as a guest room and this leaves the other one doing absolutely nothing. Why can’t he do it out as an office and move all the shit up there??! He’s refusing and has refused for 12 years. AIBU to just tell him it’s going upstairs and that’s it? Then he could also move his guitars (that he never uses) into there too instead of them ruining the guest room that I spent ages decorating (only for him to move a load of computer parts in there 2 days later 🤬🤬)

AIBU to insist he takes over the remaining spare bedroom and has all his scruffy stuff in there?

God no that would drive me mad too. Why is he insisting it has to stay downstairs? Does he even use it much?

Just do it when he's not home. He sounds passive and lazy so he won't bother moving it all back again. Chuck out all the crap whilst you're at it. He won't even notice or care. He doesn't need to give you permission it's your home too. He's had 12 years of his way so now it's your turn.

Sounds reasonable. One 'play' room each.

I would have a spring clean of the downstairs rooms,and move everything into the empty room myself . That mess would drive me crazy.

It sounds like bribing a small child, but would he be happy to use the spare room if he chose the decoration 🙂?

He’s had his way for 12 years, so tell him now you’re having your way for 12 years, or until one of you shuffles off this mortal coil.

I'd just move it there when he's out. He might be happy living as a tramp but you can't live like that and it's your home too. I'd understand if you both worked from home and you had no other options, but the dining room, but you've got lots of room. As a PP has said, have a massive clear out at the same time, it will feel good.

It reminds of a friend had a similar situation with her husband, who had one of those MASSIVE old style TV's with the big back on. He'd brought it with him when they moved in together and it dominated the dining room. They had a slimline TV in another room. They argued about it for a few years, it drove her mad. He refused to get rid of it because it worked and was good quality and expensive at the time. I asked her what the latest was and she told me she accidentally, ahem, fell over one day with a hammer in her hand and smashed it up. Oopsies.

I couldn't stand that for 12 hours let alone 12 years. Yes it's your turn to decide where it lives now - just move the thing.

Edited to add - move his crap out of the guest bedroom too - put it all in bedroom 3 and tell him the next 12 years are yours!

If he moved his stuff into the spare room after you did it up, maybe he appreciates a nice room.

Could you offer to decorate the room as an office-music room to entice him up there?

Plan to decorate the dining room & want it empty. Risk of paint spillage over computer, desk, crap if not moved. So move stuff to spare room.
Nicely decorated reclaimed dining room. No stuff to come back down. Sorted. 😊

Update - he’s reluctantly agreed … I’ve promised I’ll decorate it perfectly for him (I know it sounds like I’m pandering but I LOVE decorating so it’s more for my benefit than his 😂

now I need a good Rik Mayall poster … 😂

Glad he has agreed but my DH has no say in where his crap goes he knows better than to argue with me 😂

Well done.
I've discovered in our house, that any big sorting out stuff needs to be done by me or it stays not done or half done forever.
In my situation, though, he works full time at an active job and I do fuck all all day, so I've got time.

Result- well done! Enjoy the decorating too.

Brilliant well done but now get EVERYTHING of his crap up there in 1 room all arranged neatly and decorated and tell him that's where it's staying!

Yes move everything you don't want into the spare room "while you spring clean ", then barricade him in, throw away key

all sorted by the sounds of it, but my only question is how often is he on it? If i had a games room with my consoles in i think i wouldnt see my wife much!

Move it when he is out. Tbf i am sat in my lovely cosy little front room looking at the front forks off a motorbike lying on the coffee table and the wheel is propped up against the sofa, they seemed to have appeared overnight. 😫

https://www.redbubble.com/i/poster/Rik-Mayall-Bottom-Series-by-coilohmclothing/40414595.LVTDI?country_code=GB&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjw-_mvBhDwARIsAA-Q0Q65A01StW7IoEfABk-3Ez3Y_iupIre9Z9bhvfhGd5ECh9qY3CK829gaAocwEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds

My partner is an artist and has rik mayall prints on his Etsy store

You deserve a medal lasting 12 years like that, I would have insisted on it many years ago, and just dumped it all in there for him if he refused.
My husband WFH and has an office and when he tidies it, it's fine, but mostly it's a s*;hole of crap which about every 4 months I threaten to tidy up which means I throw a load of stuff out of her doesn't, it usually kicks his butt into tidying it lol

Can you link to it? Or if that’s against the rules could you tell me what to search for

😂😂 his daft face 😂 I do miss him, such a shame he died so young

Total aside, sorry, but if the PC is at least 12 years old, shouldn’t your husband be replacing it, the OS, updating programs etc., anyway? Sounds a bit vulnerable.

Does your husband bank or shop using the PC? Does he operate an email account on it?

If you can convince him to dump it for good, common sense security reasons and get a laptop…problem solved!

Rik’s my Roman Empire. It make me genuinely sad that he died so young.