Facebook posts after relatives death

[Celticnewyear]

Very recently lost a grandparent. They were into their nineties and had never used a computer and certainly have no friends using Facebook! We are a very small family and I’ve no doubt anyone who needed to know about the death was informed within 30 mins or so of it happening.

About 30 mins after being told myself, my sibling had already posted an announcement/sympathy post of it on social media. I’m 39 weeks pregnant with first DC and I was quite upset that my grandparent won’t get to meet them and my sibling has posted lots of pics of my grandparent holding their babies for the first time which has upset me.

My dad is a very private person who is struggling with the loss of his parent and seeing these posts from my sibling will probably upset him too.

AIBU to be firstly baffled why people need to turn to social media at times like this and second am IBU to be upset about the pics being shared? I’m aware I’m a hormonal mess atm so prepared to be told that I’m being ridiculous but I find the whole thing unnecessary especially when it’s not to ‘announce’ a death or give details of a funeral.

It’s horrible. My dm was a very private person and would hate the thought of something like this being posted. She made her feelings very clear on a number of occasions. That didn’t stop certain family members posting non stop about how heartbroken they are. It’s not all about them, they should think about the feelings of the deceased person they are posting about, rather than begging for attention in such a crass manner.

@Celticnewyear

the simple answer
leave facebook

social media is utter BS
harms our youth and whilst 15 years ago was fun it now isn't and the fact that companies have monetised your info with out being open about that is a disgrace

I left and I am so much happier for it
staying on endorses harm to the youth.

When my Dad died, I put 'RIP Dad' on my status. This was very much not for sympathy (to be perfectly honest, sympathy is not something I particularly like. Empathy is what means more to me). I put it as I have firstly, some cousins on my facebook friends list who I'm not close enough to, to have their phone numbers despite being first cousins. Secondly I have quite a few family friends abroad and some of my Dad's ex work colleagues whom I'd worked with also and at that moment in time, I couldn't bring myself to message each person to tell them. Let alone partake in the subsequent conversation and inevitable explanation of how he'd passed etc.

Was just about to say this. It does my head in. As if as soon as someone dies, they log onto Facebook to see what people are saying about them.