To not change schools?

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We will be moving house. We're currently living in a rented home in an area where the houses to buy are completely out of our budget however we have managed to save a deposit for a house in a different area but this means the school run will be a drive away or a lengthy 45 minute walk.

Our new home literally backs onto another primary school. DCs are in year 2 and 3.

Dh thinks we should move schools however I disagree the DCs have asked to stay at their current school, the school runs will be shared between myself and dh based on work.

DS struggles at school and is currently being assessed for ADHD and his teacher is a good support. Both schools are ofsted rated good.

Should i move to the closer school against DCs wishes to make life easier or AIBU to keep them at their current school?

Look at the options for closer schools.

Look at the options for school run by bike or scooter

Can the longer school run fit with work for you & dh?

Will your dc miss out on local friends if they stay at the distant school?

YANBU. It isn't that far! We lived 40 minutes away from the primary school and walked there and back every day.

Yes dh said once they make friends in the new area they may want to move school.

I don't like the thought of them being the new kids in the school they're both very settled where they are. Were happy to continue with the school run, things would just be easier if they were to move to the new school, i work very close by etc.

Try it for the rest of this year. How far is it in distance? What about Secondary schools?

If they are both rated good then I'd probably move schools assuming I liked the local one as well. They would most likely settle quickly and it would be a lot easier. Plus it makes them more a part of the local community.

I'd move. Esp if secondary options differ. They'll want to walk alone / hang out with mates by year 5/6

Have you even asked the closer school if they have spaces in the year groups you need? If not you need to do so. Worst case scenario they can only take one child in. Then do you split them?

Move. The time can be saved and used for clubs, play dates, rest, local friends.

I would consider moving them. The distance from home to school will be ok until it isn’t when you have a work / family emergency and then it will become a problem. Kids at this age are pretty resilient when it comes to change and are likely still in the forming friendship stage.

I'd move them. My exH left when DD was almost finished Year 2. He had done the school runs as I taught full time. I couldn't afford childcare so moved her to my school, just over 3 miles away. It was difficult for her to socialise with friends at the her new school, & she eventually lost touch with local friends from her old school. (Except one who lived in out street but then she moved 10 miles away.) Although I loved having her at my school, because I saw her more, I do regret moving her from our local school.

DS struggles at school and is currently being assessed for ADHD and his teacher is a good support. Both schools are ofsted rated good.
Would moving schools impact/slow down the assessment process? Are you on waitlist for assessment or doing the assessment now? If there's a section for school to rate various behaviours in I wouldn't want to move until that was done. You need a teacher that knows him well not a brand new one. It could be talking to the school you're next too and see what they can do to support him and also just if they're generally accepting and supportive of neuro diversity before making any decisions.

We moved and live a 7 min drive from my kids school which would be a 2hr walk (rural). I wouldn’t even consider moving my kids for that driving distance when they are settled in a lovely school.