Long story short, my ex husband and I are on better terms recently (have been split for just over 3 years) in an attempt to be a united front for our daughter and to help her as she does struggle.
This is working well but there's something niggling at me...
He smokes weed, has since I've known him and it was part of the many reasons that we split.
We went to court, he had to take a drugs test which he passed (they tell you when they're coming, they take a hair sample - he kept his hair as short as possible)
All fine, I didn't believe he'd given up but was willing to give him the benefit of the doubt especially if he's not doing it when DD is with him.
However, we went to parents evening last night, he dropped DD at his dad's then came to meet me. Anyone who has smelled someone who smokes weed knows that it's potent, he hummed of it.
Wouldn't usually bat an eyelid these days if he's not with DD but he'd just dropped her off then was going to pick her up after parents eve.
Not happy but for the sake of keeping things civil I 🤐
However (again) DD is with me tonight, just took yesterday's clothes from her bag that she'd had at dads, stinks of weed, as does her whole bag 😩
I hate that such an innocent little being smells of that at school, others must notice.
Do I just ignore it seeing as there's nothing I can do? Or see if I can just have a chat with him, explain I know he's doing it and that if that's what he needs to do then whatever, but that our 7yo absolutely cannot be going to school stinking like a spliff and being in the house when he does it?!
Guess I'm just looking for other opinions because it is a tricky situation.
Ps. I know weed smoking isn't the worst thing someone can do, he's probably a better person whilst smoking it because he's so used to it. I'm not meaning to make it sound like he's dealing class A's from his gaff!
YABU - Chill out, leave him alone
YANBU - Talk to him, this isn't ok