Evey time I Google tantrums in kids with adhd I read that they should be decreasing from age 4. My son was a joy at 2 and 3, 4 more difficult, 5 he now has the most extreme tantrums. Today in a shop I told him he could get a small treat after his club. He wanted a big one. I said no. Cue huge meltdown and me having to physically pull him out of the shop because he was going berserk and everyone was staring. I was embarrassed. I felt awful for physically removing him (I haven't had to do this before) and just feel like an awful parent. I have even reached a point where I just wished I had a different child and I have resented ever having him. I have never said this out loud and it is usually a fleeting thought. He is so loving and kind. The first thing he tells me in the morning is that he loves me.
I have tried every adhd parenting trick in the book but he just sees red. Punches me. Kicks me. Tells me he hates me.
It doesn't help that his dad who he sees every other weekend lets him have whatever he wants. He always comes home with bags of sweets and new toys. Without fail. His dad only ever sees him for a day at a time and doesn't have to do any real parenting.
Does it get better? I'm scared it is always going to be this hard.