Should DH have told me this or not?

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My DH is having family trouble at the moment concerning his son (my stepson) and conspiracy theories. I found out by accident yesterday that he had contacted his son’s aunt asking if he could phone her and he subsequently did.
He still hasn’t told me even though I asked if he’d heard anything from his ex’s sister or any of her family about it. He doesn’t know that I am aware they spoke on the phone.

• I shouldn’t worry about it even though he is secretive in other areas of his life

AIBU?

• I have reason for concern because he isn’t sharing things with me as husbands and wives should.

AINBU?

This.

This does sound worrying, for your DH that is. I wouldn't tell you stuff either if this is the level of suspicion to live your life with. Also, why do you assume that the other step son told you with malicious intent? It's all very dramatic for a non-event.

So his son is spinning out into conspiracy land and your OH contacts his aunt and by extension the boys mother and you’re freaking out?

get a grip woman, he’s trying to help his son.

Your whole post sounds weird and paranoid. Why would you expect him to tell you that he’d called his sister/SIL/ex-SIL about his own son? I don’t see why this is an issue? Why would this be suspicious?

And what other things is he ‘secretive’ about?