To go on holiday without DH?

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DH needs to go home to Scotland to be with his elderly parents following his mum having a hip replacement. He is taking a full week off work to go up and run them to hospital and appointments et cetera. Only his mum drives and they live rurally.

DH and I were going to use the week’s annual leave to go away somewhere together, or to stay at home together. My annual leave has to be used up by the end of April. If I don’t use it, I lose it.

Due to work commitments, I can only really take the annual leave on the week dh is up in Scotland.

Dh and his parents have asked that I don’t go up as the house will be overcrowded. So my choices are to stay at home for a week or go on holiday.

A friend of mine has a villa somewhere sunny and is spending the winter there. She’s heard I have a week spare and has asked me if I’d like to go visit her. I’d be paying my own flights of course.

Would I BU to go on holiday without dh when he is looking after his family?

As they don't want you in Scotland and you can't change your leave I don't see why anyone would object if you went on holiday. Go and enjoy yourself

Enjoy your holiday.

of course go on holiday, weird you are even questioning it.

This...

@SignoraVolpe "Of course go on holiday.
Baffled why your presence would cause overcrowding though unless it’s a one bedroom and your dh is on the sofa."

Maybe the woman having surgery doesn't want too many people around her?

I’d say go by yourself and have a lovely time. He’ll probably be happier knowing you’re busy and not having to worry about you wasting your time. But be sensitive to the fact that he will be missing out so don’t inundate him with pictures and don’t get offended if he doesn’t want to hear in too much detail about what a lovely time you are having.

Of course you’d go. You are not invited to come and support your DH with his parents - so what is the point of staying at home???

No idea why you're even asking

As long as the flights aren't so horrendously expensive that mean you can't take a trip later in the year together I suppose.

Just go! Why wouldn't you?

Why wouldn't you go on holiday?

His family have specifically said that you shouldn't come with your DH to Scotland, so it's not like you're just jetting off and leaving him to it. You would literally just be kicking around at home wasting a week off doing nothing.

I was going to say should you go and help DH but if they've asked you not to go then this is the biggest green light ever for a holiday to see your friend or go anywhere else what a dream come true! Enjoy!

My case would be packed.

@Herdinggoats "But be sensitive to the fact that he will be missing out so don’t inundate him with pictures and don’t get offended if he doesn’t want to hear in too much detail about what a lovely time you are having."

I think you might have misread the OP- she's talking about her partner, who is presumably an adult. Not her teenage child.

Why on earth wouldn't you?

That sounds ideal! I’d be encouraging my DH to do it in the same circumstances if the situation were reversed. Wouldn’t you?

It wouldn't even be a question if it were me. Why the hesitation?

It wouldn't even be a question if it were me. Why the hesitation?

I'm actually a bit concerned that you are even asking this question. It suggests that you don't feel comfortable doing things without your DH which means either you need to learn a bit more independence or that he is a controlling twat.

Go, enjoy the sunshine. Have a great time.

Of course go! It wouldn’t occur to me to even question it (it wouldn’t occur to me to go with DH either even if you hadn’t been told not to go, so maybe I’m horrendously selfish)

Go.