... how does one go about finding a divorce lawyer?

[athingofbeauty]

I just... I'm already overwhelmed, that's why the divorce seems necessary. Am I supposed to look online? How would I know who's any good? My husband could certainly find and pay the best.

No idea but good luck

I was lucky, I knew one of the Mums at school ( as well as being a near-ish neighbour ) was a solicitor and I asked her for a recommendation.

My solicitor was excellent !!!

Don’t over think it in the first instance.
Any family law firm in your town will have solicitors experienced in divorce. Google will give you a list, and an email or phone call asking to have an appointment regarding divorce will get you put on to the right person. Many firms will have a website with names of solicitors and number of years of experience in the area.

Do you a situation that’s unusual or complicated? That would when you’d really need to research harder.

Personal recommendation is good - I’ve sent you a pm. Good luck.

You don't need a solicitor until you have a) the property valued and b) a pension report carried out by a pensions on divorce expert (I recommend Mathiesson consulting). When you know what is actually in the pot, THEN you pay for a very good solicitor. I self represented and saved so much money this way. The moment I knew our assets' worth, I got the solicitor to do the most important job: Be my economist and help me get what I need financially from the divorce. Mine's based in London. He's not cheap. He is exceptional and doesn't do the time-waster's-dance that so many solicitors are good at. PM me if you'd like his details. I'm not sure where you're based so I'll wait to see if I hear from you.
Do you have children, by the way?

Yes, Serenity, we have children and to complicate matters one of them is disabled and likely dependent for life. And I'm pretty sure my husband has at least one bank account I don't know about (how else did he hide years of paying for escorts? ☹️); he definitely has two more I can't access or look into that he claims are related to his job. Do PM me, please. It's true I might need to start with a detective.

Ah! You’ll love him, OP! Honestly, he’s exactly who you need. I’ll pm you now.

Well if you think he is being financially abusive, hiding finances etc your Sol might instruct a forensic accountant.

Hopefully it will be more straightforward than that though.

A friend of mine divorced and had a severely disabled child, she got pretty much everything. I hope for the same result for you.

But yes personal recommendations are best, local even better as it's easier but my preference is usually a female solicitor. (I have been through some complicated family law things)

From bitter personal experience (and I can’t stress this enough) pay the absolute maximum you can afford. Get into debt if you have to.

A cheap divorce lawyer is the falsest of false economies. The difference between a good and bad lawyer is life changing.