Annoyed by the beautician !!

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I went to a local beauty salon for a treatment with a lady who also has a child in my son’s year at school. I don’t know this lady know but we were talking about the kids work experience I commented my child is going to my husbands business although he is in partnership so 50% is I am not sure but don’t think the school want kids to go with their parents, although this is the path he wants to take when older. Anyway she must have been home repeated this to her child who now keeps taunting my son very loudly saying this isn’t allowed to go with parents . I’m really cross this child could jeopardise it if she carries on and cross she has been home and discussed this with her child !
is there a code of ethics here about not repeating conversations or is it my own fault for opening my big mouth to her ??

He could do work experience with his dad anytime, wouldn’t you be better letting him go somewhere else to get more out of it?

Both mother and daughter are blabber mouths, the apple Dosen’t fall far from the tree

@Bluegray2 😂😂I know this now !

She sounds massively unprofessional.

If you know your child going to their parents business is against the rules, why would you tell anyone? But especially someone who has a child at the school and who you don't know particularly well. I understand why you are annoyed, but you are the one at fault.

Surely then the biggest blabber mouth here is OP?!

OP, you really told the wrong person. They aren’t trained counsellors, although are often treated as such with the amount of information they are gifted with. She hasn’t done anything wrong per se, the biggest problem is you have a mutual connection and she’s shared this information at home.

If you are going to mention to the manager, I’d keep it light and not make out she’s done something terribly wrong. Maybe just say ‘I take full responsibility, I slipped up about something and it could now, unfortunately, have an impact on my sons placement etc’. I’m sure the Mum ideally wouldn’t want her son making a deal of it at school and potentially lose out on business.

Ah so you mean the school has a code of ethics that you're breaking? But no one should say anything about that because of their code of ethics of not telling others what you've told them. I see.

@CookieCrumbles23 good advice 👍I didn’t think anything about what I was saying at the time !

@B1anche I agree, I know this now x

The only thing that you can do is be honest with the school about breaking the rules and apologise to your child for telling your beautician. You have caused this.

This exactly.

It seems a bit mad for your kid to do their official work experience with a parent - they could go along in half term if they're that interested. Surely the whole point of work experience is to try something you wouldn't get to do otherwise?

Missing the point of the thread, I know!

This. Lesson learnt. If you're bending rules obviously don't tell anyone.

So you're breaking the school rules, in a way that is to the detriment of your DC, and you're telling someone who is a part of the school community about it. I'd argue she has a responsibility to tell people about it. Admittedly it's the school staff running the work experience she should have talked to rather than her DC but, break the rules and you have only yourself to blame if you get caught - and doubly so if you don't even attempt to hide that you're breaking the rules.

Cross.. 😂

Just say he's going to that firm but the other owner will be overseeing him and he'll be in a different department to his dad. I guess they want kids out of their comfort zone, in a workplace where they don't know people and need to make a good impression from scratch.
The lady obviously isn't one for keeping secrets. But then again you didn't tell her it was top secret info and you seemed to volunteer it pretty casually. I went to a cousin's place for work experience, but that was a very long time ago.

I agree, it’s bonkers and they also could offer the place to another child who could really benefit from it. OPs DC could go there any time.

Don’t message the manager you will just make it worse, she will tell her son and it will go on.

you did make me chuckle with the beautician code of ethics, I your waxer do solemnly swear…😀

Those saying "Complain to the manager" - really? You'd want to make trouble at this woman's work for this?

Sometimes you just have to accept that you created a problem yourself by opening your mouth.

I expect she mentioned to child as conversation perhaps to encourage them to think about where theyam want to go. I imagine she does not expect her child to taunt yours about it, who would think that is something to taunt someone about?

If it doesn't blow over soon i would contact the school in the same way I would about any other bullying. And obviously never discuss my child with peers parents again just in case.

Slightly lighthearted - YWBU not to know that
beauty salons and hairdressers’ are prime locations for picking up gossip!

There may not be a code of ethics, but I still think she shouldn’t have said anything about what you talked about.

Just as you were innocently making conversation

Perhaps this lady went home & had an innocent conversation with her son about upcoming work experience

& happened to mention that your son was going to his dad's work

In situations where we can give the benefit of the doubt or attribute malice

Best to give the benefit of the doubt

In that case your child should not be going to their fathers company should they? It may stop you bragging next time
Stop being such a drama queen