To accept new job, mid TTC cycle?

[todaysgoingtobetheday]

So I'm 31, and recently decided to TTC for baby 2.

I found a new role which is a side step in terms of money and responsibility, but a massive gap filler in my CV. I applied knowing I have gaps in experience and I was very unlikely to get it, but since I've been incredibly rust in my interview skills since baby 1, I was recommended to keep trying to build them up. However, surprisingly I've been offered the role.

Issue is, I ovulated today, and actively had unprotected sex the day before. So there's a possibility I could be pregnant. I've been pregnant twice (one miscarriage) both caught first cycle - obviously this doesn't mean this will happen this time but its playing in the back of my mind what if?

What do I do? Do I accept, reject, or tell the hiring manager I maybe pregnant, or tell them if I find out next week?

In hindsight I shouldn't have applied & TTC'd but obviously both are minimal chance of succeeding - and I thought I'd probably only get one, or none. But now I'm nervous about getting both (fantastic for me, probably not good for employer)!

Additional info is:

• It's a internal position, so my continuous service will move over, and we are entitled to the enhanced package no matter what the length of service is.
• IF I were to be pregnant, I'd start this position 4.5 months pregnant.
• I'd take at least 9 months off, if I could afford it 12 months. But i'd intend on being in the role long term afterwards.
• My current role is due to end next year - I will get redeployed into another role rather than made redundant (project based company so this is regular occurrence) but it would be a weight of my shoulder knowing this wont happen whilst on maternity leave.

Definitely don’t tell them until you’re at least 12 weeks and first scan! Good luck with both!

Go for it! Good luck with both! You don't need to tell them for months yet.

You're overthinking it! If you want the job, take it!

Yeah I wouldn't give it a second thought at this point, wait and see what happens first....

My only concern would have been mat pay but thats covered so don't tell them until you have to and have signed all the paperwork

I think it's fine not to say anything to the hiring manager. You'll be in the new job for about 5 months before you start mat leave: it's an internal move so they've got to find cover for you anyway whichever role you're in.

As it's a sideways move I also don't think people can criticise you for snapping up a higher paid job and then going on leave (not that they should criticise that anyway!)

Sounds a bit like you're in the public sector too (or at least a v big company) so it's not like you're "messing around" a small business owner with whom you've got a particular sense or trust.

Also I think that realistically employers probably aren't that surprised when people have a second kid, cos loads of people want 2.

I do understand why you feel weird about it, but I think take the job! And congratulations on getting it

I think itd be sensible to go for the new role. Congrats

Yeah I'm in the public sector so we are very large and continuously shifting employees around! I'd be messing around the manager of this team, but it's a very common and popular role, so I cant imagine it will be difficult to fill temporarily, the role I'm in currently is much more niche, so will be easier to fill permanently rather than temporarily.

I did make it very clear before shortlisting/interview (and they've followed up today asking what my terms are) that I'd need very flexible working to cover childcare for my 2 year old (and stating my needs) - so they're aware of the age of my child and probably half expecting it I presume (I would in their position).

I do feel weird because I feel like I'm deceiving them, but I lost my last pregnancy at 7ish weeks and not actually pregnant yet - so I guess its likely all this worry is about nothing!

Thank you!

Thanks all - you've all settled my fears and I'll accept after negotiating working hours!

I took an internal
Promotion, interviewing at 7 weeks pregnant. I told them once the papers were finalised at 14 weeks pregnant and starting the job around 4.5 months like you.

If I'm honest I'd say be selfish, especially if you've worked at the company and it's not a company move.

@todaysgoingtobetheday yay congratulations and good luck!