We were playing a game over the weekend where we each say 5 things we're grateful about for each other. My third one to my husband was that I love the great relationship he's got with our son and how nurturing he is.
He said "yeh I dunno why that's a compliment, in some ways I'm even more nurturing than you are!"
AIBU to regard this as insulting? Or am I being too sensitive?
Background is that we are going through a really hard patch and to be honest the only reason I'm staying in the relationship is because I'll still have to communicate with him if we separate (for parenting stuff) so I don't see how my situation would improve.
I am finding so many things he says or does toxic. And I'm not sure whether I'm just a hugely sensitive/anxiously attached person or whether the situation would be unbearable regardless. So this will give me some perspective.
Also I was saying it because he didn't really want to be hands on as a dad, he was really wedded to the idea of "mum knows best and I don't know what I'm doing"...his mum was a SAHM and that's what he pictured for us. But my parents coparents and that's what I wanted, so he stepped up and I'm really glad as they have an amazing bond.
The other 4 compliments were not to do with parenting!
But I'm seething about his comment....of all the 100s of things he could have said "thank you" or "yay we both have different strengths" or nothing at all...am I reading too much into it?