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To be really nervous about starting my new job next week?

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44nnii · 18/03/2024 12:15

I start a new job next week and I'm starting to feel really nervous. It's back in the same kind of role as my last one which I really struggled with intense anxiety and dread in. I've had a bit of a career break and attempted to retrain but truthfully my previous role/area is the kind of work I want to be doing and find most intersting, and it's niche enough to be able to give me a decent salary, I just struggled a lot with the intense pressure of dealing with clients, presenting and all of the meetings and office politics.

This new role is a better fit as it's a smaller company and I won't have to deal with clients as I'll be more behind the scenes/internal. However, Glassdoor reviews are pretty negative and say management can be toxic, although my 2 interviewers were lovely and it felt more like a casual conversation than a grilling interview.

I feel like all the memories of my previous job are coming to the surface and I'm remembering how it felt when I'd have lots of projects to work on and then would have colleagues calling me out of the blue to give me more stuff. I'm a people pleaser and would take too much on as I felt like I couldn't say no (although I got better at that towards the end).

Does anyone have any advice on how I can help mentally prepare for starting the new job next week? I was in such a good place when applying and interviewing, it's only the last couple of days that the nerves have started to kick in

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Problemnumber99 · 18/03/2024 22:58

If it was clients and presenting that caused a lot of the stress, that should hopefully be removed.
I used to do that, say yes to everything, I even offered to do stuff I wasn't being asked to do. Now (new job) when I'm asked, I ask where it sits in my list of priorities. Takes a clown to reply with they're all a priority and puts it back on them to manage their requests.
And stay in the shadows as far as gossip and politics is concerned, unless it directly impacts you...ignore.
Glassdoor is mostly disgruntled ex employees, or like my old company who paid us to write good ones.
Go in on your first morning the person you want to be. They will be just as worried, you never know if a new hire is going to be a nightmare or not!
Don't worry and good luck! 🍀

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