So how do people flirt nowadays then 🤷🏻‍♀️

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I was watching Gogglebox the other day and two of the younger women/girls (early 20’s maybe 🤷🏻‍♀️) were watching the part in One day where the two main characters bump into each other at the Uni ball/dance. They look at each other quite intensely, smile, flirt etc…normal stuff really, nice and romantic. The two girls watching were really confused and asked what they were doing and what kind of flirting was this etc, they did seem v confused! I didn’t find it odd at all and it reminded me of being in a teen in my 90’s and meeting guys in pubs/clubs and having similar flirtations, it was great 😂
Did make me wonder why it was so confusing to them and how flirting differs these days then with younger people? What do they do?

I have got no idea how its done these days.
Mind you, in my youth all my flirting happened while I was pissed so I have very unreliable memories of the whole thing then too

A lot of women nowadays think it's creepy/sleazy to be approached by a stranger (unless he looks like Channing Tatum - then it's usually fine).

@KattyBoomBoom95 But it’s ok via Instagram message

I think they probably get it all out of the way online then just meet up for a date.
Is that not the modern way?

Better than getting groped in the chip shop after pub chuck out and politely rebuffing their advances via a swift application of wooden chippie fork to their wandering hands.

I wondered the same when I watched it op.

I guess going on my dds who are young adults with boundaries, it would border on harassment for a young male to come up out of nowhere and start pushing his luck in an overtly sexual or flirty way. They and their friends would be very wary of a direct approach like that.

I think modern day flirting is all banter online now.

Don't all the people on that programme have a producer pushing them to be reactive/quirky/judgemental or just spectacularly stupid? They're expected to 'say things' so I wouldn't read too much in to whatever drivel leaks out of their brains.

Haven't watched it tbh but I know loads of single people and none of them use OLD and often meet men out and about in clubs/bars mostly. So yes it does still happen.

I think some would probs find that a bit creepy too. But with social platforms it's easier to break the waters with acquaintances etc when you're all commenting on the same post, for example.

Somebody might post something funny taking the piss out of a mutual friend (cheeky comment on their photo etc) and you might like their comment maybe. You can kind of feel each other out without having to walk up to a stranger in a bar who might be surrounded by their mates.

Mind you, I have a male friend in his late 30s (long time friend of my brother) who is spectacularly good at chatting women in IRL - has always been. Last three partners he's chatted up as complete strangers.

I've seen him do it before when younger and usually he will crack a joke when standing next to them at the bar etc. Often you can see them kind of laugh/almost roll their eyes because they know he's flirting but often they will engage. He's good looking with a strong Irish accent so I think this maybe helps, and he's genuinely funny.

I'm not sure I'd go and stand in a bar nowadays tbh if I wanted to meet somebody. If I was already there then fair enough but otherwise it'd seem a bit desperate. I'm around 30yo.

They don’t go there to stand and meet someone it’s called a night out sorry forgot this was MN where everyone is uptight 😂

🤣🤣🤣 who goes to stand in a bar waiting to be picked up?
You go out with your friends. Getting chatted up was something that just happened while you were out having fun.

Yep it’s called socialising not sure what’s hard to understand about that 🫣 or if pp was imagining some loner at a bar stood there hoping to meet someone. It’s just part of a night out like drinks on the weekend with friends as part of a social thing, pretty normal thing to do 😂

When I read threads on here from lonely people asking how to make friends/find a mate the advice is to get out there, join a gym/club; but once there at the gym/club they're not allowed to engage as its seen as harassment? Guess if they're on a night out a slow dance at the "erection section" like the old days (this is how I met my dh 40 years ag) is out of the question too these days.
No wonder I posted a thread a few days ago about my son being perpetually unattached 🤫

You don't get to tell others what to do on here. It makes you sound like a dick @BarbieDangerous was right to call you out. HTH

Oh yes, that too!

I used to be fantastic at flirting. It was such a fun game! Sadly I am now old and fat and nobody would want to flirt with me now.

@DilemmaDelilah yes it was great fun in the 80's & hopefully a slow dance with the one you fancied at the end of the night 😄
Sadly I'm old & fat too & flirting is a thing of the past. I've been told I've still got the old twinkle in my eye though 😉

We had such fun in the 80s and 90s. Such a golden era with no devices and SM. Weren't we lucky?

The 90’s and early -mid 2000’s was a golden time, such fun 🤩

How old are you? Nights out don't happen that often once all your mates are getting married/having kids. Far easier to message an attractive bloke and arrange a drink.

And I'm not uptight at all. I used to party like an absolute animal but I don't take coke anymore and I'm not a big drinker so bars are kinda boring now tbh. Would rather hit the gym or go offroading with my mates.

🤣🤣🤣 who goes to stand in a bar waiting to be picked up?

Um, never heard of 'going on the pull'? You're not a nun are you lol.

Yes. I have. Its what happens when you go on a night out with friends to have fun and if you hook up, you hook up. I have never known any woman go to a bar by herself and stand there hoping some bloke will come over.

I dont go out im a lone parent havent been out in about 10 years but this thread is about single people so thats irrelevant I clearly stated my single friends 😉 but im sure married people still go out for drinks? Birthday celebrations etc

Yeah, I still do celebrations and odd events but I rarely do random nights on the town like I used to. The sort that just 'happen' from a few texts.

I love rum and whisky tbf but I can't be doing with nights out too much as it's so hard to keep the weight off when you're drinking regularly.