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My sister and myself took a dna test with ancestry for fun. A friend bought us it for Christmas. It has come back that our
D Father is not biological related to us. We are shocked and upset. My DM passed away several years ago. We cannot possibly ask our D Father as he is elderly and it would break his heart. We need done clarification but don't know what to do next

Perhaps you dad already knows. Maybe you we're both born before they met.

Does your mother have a sister that she was close to? If anyone knows the story I'd imagine she would be your best bet.

My sister and myself were born after they married. Unfortunately my DM was an only child. We are unsure if my D Father knows but he has never indicated anything

bring up a conversation about DNA tests and ancestry and suggest you all do them. Dont mention you have already done them and 'discover' together

@LaughterLentil I couldn't do it to him the shock would kill him. My parents had been married for over 60 years as far as I know happily

How did you get your dad's DNA for the test?

Good point @fedupandstuck and the OP must have a very generous friend as those tesing kits are expensive!

My dads dna was already on the database as he did the test years ago with his brother

That's tough OP. I'm sure it caused a lot of anxiety and stress

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He’s your father, always has been. Maybe not biologically but a father in all other ways. Don’t say anything to him. You can investigate further when he passes. He might not know and this could really upset him.

Do you know why your father did the test himself OP? Could it be that he suspected he wasn't your biological father, and so already knows, but doesn't care?

I am suspicious that he may know. I don't want tomorrow tell him or bring up the subject as it would destroy him

I am sorry, this must be a shocking discovery for you. Given that neither of you are biologically related to your DF,it may be that they used a sperm donor but never told you.

How does Ancestry connect your results with your father's results, which are presumably private to his account and not shareable with anyone else due to data protection rules?

Or has it indicated some characteristic that cannot apply to your father for your biological father?

@fedupandstuck it has showed a characteristic that could not apply to my dad

I don't understand how you can categorically say you aren't related without access to your Dad's DNA results.

Does he know that you and your sister have done the tests too?