To ask for answers post divorce

[orangepinkblossom]

EXH of 13 years left unexpectedly a year ago for another woman whom he is about to marry. We have children together.

Am I being unreasonable in asking him some questions about what happened to our marriage and why he chose to do this?

Pre-separation we had our fair share of struggles but his moving out came completely out of the blue.

YANBU to want to ask and know but you won't get the answers you want, if any at all.

My h refused to talk about it. Said what's the point in going over old ground? I said that's rather convenient since you're not the one who is hurting. He is, but I didn't do anything to him. He's just annoyed I said we were over due to his actions.

YANBU as I felt exactly the same, but doubt you’ll get honest answers that you deserve, if any at all.

I took the silence and actions as answers for themselves and tried to heal that way. Sending hugs, it’s tough.

Yeah, I can understand why you feel that way and why you might want that, but the time to do a post-mortem of your relationship isn’t when he is about to marry someone else. I would just draw a line under this and focus on moving on, it doesn’t matter why he did it, all that matters is that he did do it.