Would you give your mum some of your inheritance if

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Your wealthy dad left her penniless because she was an unmarried SAHM for years before cheating on him and leaving when you were 13?

I haven’t seen her in 5 years, we have a terrible relationship as she moved the AP into our home 2 months after the split and turned a blind eye to their physical and mental abuse of us. Eventually they were arrested and convicted for domestic violence. I was forced to then move in with my dad who was an alcoholic. Both my parents were really selfish, cold and downright cruel to us for many years and none of my siblings are in touch with them either.

But I can’t help but feel it’s very unfair she is now penniless while my dad splashes the cash he earned when she was taking care of us on his new wife.

WIBU to give her a chunk of my inheritance if I get any? Or has she made her own bed and can lie in it?

Not a fucking chance would I give her a bean.

WIBU to give her a chunk of my inheritance if I get any?

is this all hypothetical, you don't have any inheritance? I couldn't be bothered to worry about it if so.

But for what it's worth, no I wouldn't give any.

Please god, don’t ever give her a penny. You owe her NOTHING.

Of course not. She sounds awful.

All hypothetical for now. It’s just the thought of her freezing in a flat somewhere is awful.

More awful than her letting you be abused?

God no. Stick some money on her gas meter if she's freezing but no, don't give her actual money.

She left him. She didn’t take care of you, or protect you. She will have her state pension, won’t she?

Do what makes you feel best. Mumsnet get very weird about money but it isn't the be all amd end all. You don't have to hoard evey penny, sharing can make you feel good too.

Do what you want. Keep in mind she’ll be taxed on any large sums though

Decide when/if you inherit anything

If your Dad has a new wife OP, and is an alcoholic, isn't it more likely that the new wife will outlive him and inherit everything?