Naturally I don’t seem to be the most affectionate person when it comes to showing my DP physical affection and this is something he has been finding difficult for a while. DP is a lot more physically/sexually affectionate than me. I’m less physically affectionate, but show affection in actions and words etc. I used to be physically affectionate at the beginning of our 10+ year relationship, but due to things/mistakes he had made in the early years, I feel this has subsequently subconsciously affected how open I am with my physical affection towards him. We clearly now have an incompatibility with how we both show/receive affection.
At present, DP has an issue with the love and affection that I show to our multiple DC. He says that if I can show them love and affection, then I should be able to show him love and affection. It really bothers him and he seems to be ?jealous that I treat my children in the natural way that a mother would.
AIBU to think it’s quite weird that DP has a problem with this? It’s brought up regularly at the moment and he’s pinpointing me as having a problem/in the wrong. I’ve always thought that DP is quite low in emotional intelligence and to me, I feel that he can’t differentiate that the love/affection that a mother gives her children is different to the love/affection that is given to a romantic/sexual partner? AIBU and barking up the wrong tree with my line of thinking? Or does DP have a point?