Going to air my own dirty laundry here but in desperate need of rational non bias advice tonight. Long time lurker, first poster.
Nine years ago, I had an argument with my aunt at a NYE party. She is my dad’s brothers wife so we aren’t biologically related. I was 19 at the time, everyone was drinking and then aunt started to talk very negatively about my mums mental health. My parents had not long divorced and my mum had taken it hard (affair involved from my dad ) and had tried to commit suicide. I had found her And resuscitated her and I wasn’t in a good place. Aunt was saying things such as world would be a better place, my mum was a psycho etc to anyone who would listen. it touched a nerve and I snapped at her and told her to shut up. We started arguing and it got heated and I chucked my half glass of wine at her. I’m not here to justify my actions- I know it was assault. In the end, we got separated and I left the party.
It’s now 9 years later, and I haven’t seen anyone on my dad’s side since (apart from my dad). I’m now 7 years sober, graduated uni, live in a city around 100 miles away and I’m expecting my first baby. Aunt and I haven’t had one word since. As far as I’m concerned, it’s in the past and it’s gone now. It’s been almost ten years.
However, whenever there is a family get together or a party- it always gets back to me that Aunt has been telling everyone there that when she sees me next she’s going to “kick my head in” and “smash my face up” and that I’m getting what’s coming to me. I’ve heard this from tons of people and I believe it’s true. Aunt is quite rough woman and was renown for being a “fighter” in her younger days. I’ve never really been bothered by it as I live miles away and honestly, I’m not interesting in continuing any sort of spat and the woman is 62 years old, I’ve also never had a fight in my life and just, no.
Anyway, bring forward to today. Family party last night- I didn’t attend. Siblings came home and telling me again via WhatsApp that aunt has been threatening again if she sees me and is out for blood, I also get a message from an old school friend who attended saying the same. I asked them if they told her it’s not on, and they said they don’t want to get involved.
Now, I’m a little worried- because I’m moving back to my town soon so I can be close to my mum for when the baby has arrived and I genuinely believe that if she saw me in the street with the baby she would attack me. I’ve never been bothered before with the 100 mile distance. I feel like calling the police but feel like they’ll laugh at the fact I’m reporting threats from a family member! I’ve also told my dad my plans to report her and he’s worried because although he thinks she’s mental he has a good relationship with my uncle.
So I guess WWYD?